Is your marriage being affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD)? Does borderline personality disorder have an influence on the likelihood of you staying married or getting divorced?
If you’re a man who is married to a woman with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you may be wondering how this affects your marriage and your chances of divorce. BPD is a mental illness that can make it hard for your wife to control her emotions, act appropriately, and maintain healthy relationships. She may have intense mood swings, fear of abandonment, impulsive behaviors, and difficulty trusting you. She may also lash out at you, blame you, manipulate you, or threaten you.
You may feel frustrated, confused, hurt, and helpless. You may wonder if you can ever have a happy and stable marriage with your wife. You may also wonder if you should divorce her and move on with your life.
The truth is, there is no simple answer to these questions. Every marriage is different, and every person with BPD is different. However, there are some facts and statistics that can help you understand your situation better and make an informed decision.
According to research, people with BPD have a divorce rate of around 35% by the age of 40, which is roughly the same as the divorce rate for the average US citizen. This means that being married to a woman with BPD does not necessarily doom your marriage to failure. However, it also means that your marriage is not immune to the challenges and risks that any marriage faces.
Another surprising fact is that people with BPD are much less likely to remarry after a divorce. Only about 10% of people with BPD get remarried by around age 40, which is nearly half the national rate of remarriage. This suggests that people with BPD may have a harder time finding and maintaining a new partner after a divorce. It also suggests that divorce may not be the best solution for your marriage, as it may not guarantee you a better future.
Of course, these statistics are not the only factors that you should consider when deciding whether to divorce your wife or not. You should also consider the quality and satisfaction of your marriage, the impact of your wife’s BPD on your mental and physical health, the availability and effectiveness of treatment for your wife, and the best interests of your children (if you have any).
Ultimately, the decision to divorce your wife is a personal and complex one. It’s not something that you should rush into or take lightly. It’s something that you should think carefully about and discuss with your wife, your therapist, your lawyer, and your support network.
If you’re looking for more guidance and support on how to deal with your wife’s BPD and how to improve your marriage, you can contact us today. We are a team of experienced and compassionate coaches who specialize in helping men like you overcome the challenges and difficulties of being married to a woman with BPD. We can help you understand your wife better, communicate more effectively, set healthy boundaries, and regain your confidence and happiness. We can also help you decide whether divorce is the right option for you or not, and how to cope with the consequences if you choose to go through with it.
Don’t let your wife’s BPD ruin your marriage and your life. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled. You deserve to have a great marriage. You deserve to be a good guy to a great man. Contact us today and let us help you achieve your goals.
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