Dan Dore | Good Guys 2 Great Men

My Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex When I Am Upset

“Every time I try to express my emotions to my wife she shuts down. And I know it’ll be about 2 weeks before we’ll have sex again! What the hell is up with that?!” Take a deep breath. Every time I explain how a man’s vulnerability can mess up his sex life someone ends up getting pissed off. He’ll say something like: “Why can’t she accept me and my emotions like I’m supposed to accept hers? Why can’t she have a little compassion and show support for ME sometimes?” This is such a common problem for married men you would think that no woman on earth can handle a man’s … Continue reading →

How to Stop Being Anxious About Your Marriage Problems

I was running through the woods the other day on my quest to lose a few of my wintry pounds. I like variety and can’t do the same thing over and over again. So I thought I’d do some trail running in the woods behind the house. Apparently, you’re supposed to look where you’re going. I was looking down, preoccupied with not falling when a sneaky tree branch came out of nowhere and knocked me in the head. I was only looking at my next step – with no idea where I was headed or what to expect. It’s a great metaphor and reminder if you’re ever feeling out of … Continue reading →

A Simple Way to Build Your Confidence Today

I’m typing this article to you at 8:00pm on a Saturday night with a runny nose and annoying cough. I could be watching reruns of American Pickers on The History Channel. That’s my normal “go to” couch potato TV indulgence when I’m sick. So why am I here sending this to you? Because I TOLD somebody I would! I knew early this morning I wanted to get this newsletter and video done, so I sent a text to my colleague, Dan Dore. I declared I would do this today. And it’s not midnight yet, so I’m still good and it feels good that I’m knocking it out. This is the … Continue reading →

Should I Still Fight to Save My Marriage?

Today’s article is focused on a question that we get asked all the time: We’re heading toward divorce, so at this stage, do I still fight to try and save the marriage? It’s been said there are no atheists in foxholes. This implies that under extremely stressful conditions, everyone starts looking to a higher power for help or guidance. Not everyone. When my marriage was turning horribly painful and stressful, I sure wasn’t looking toward religion or any type of spiritual connection for help. I was too busy trying to fix things. I didn’t need any stinkin’ “spiritual help”. I was using my intellect to analyze and understand things. I … Continue reading →

My Wife Just Said She’s Not Happy in Our Marriage – Help!

The #1 affliction most men have at the very start of marriage trouble is…. Anxiety (noun: A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.) Does that sound about right? Almost overnight we can go from “happy go lucky” to “holy crap my life is falling apart!” And because we’re “fixers”, we immediately look for something to fix it. But the problem is we always begin the search outside of our own head. And that’s the LAST place most people want to look. I won’t pretend to be an expert on anxiety and it’s cousin – depression. There are about 3,102 … Continue reading →

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

The topic for today’s article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn’t she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change this? Our first response is always to look into how you THINK about your current situation. Most of the time you’re so focused on what she says or what you think she’s thinking that you have no idea what’s really … Continue reading →

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

Failing Marriage? How to Create a Better Relationship – by Dan Dore

I had to learn this the hard way so I want to give you a head start… I had the best of intentions with regards to my marriage but yet when issues arose I struggled to find a solution to the problems. We focus so much, as men, on the result that we want. More affection, less arguing, more connection, less distance… It’s easy to find faults when a relationship is running off the rails and all our training points us to fixing what’s not working. Plug the hole and she’ll right herself…right? In this video I discuss how our approach is often all wrong and give an alternative way … Continue reading →

How To Know Whether to Fix Your Marriage or Leave it

Over a beer the other day a frustrated man asked me, “How can anyone know if the grass is going to be any greener on the other side?!” He said, “I mean, really, I see just as many guys leaving marriages and being miserable as I see guys staying and being miserable. How do you decide?” I told him, “It depends on whether you go to the other side as fertilizer or dog pee.” That’s when I think I might have pissed him off. *************** Fertilizer or dog pee? WTF does that mean? I explained to him that I’ve seen men leave a marriage in a pissy, angry, resentful and … Continue reading →

How to Create an Intimate Connection with Your Wife – by Dan Dore

I want to talk to you about something that’s very close to my heart. It’s something that has affected every area of my life in a positive way. In particular it has benefited my relationship with my wife and 3 kids enormously. It brought me back from a place of fear and insecurity and reminded me who I really was. I wanted to make this article for those of you in a relationship that is struggling. Where you feel like you’re constantly worried and walking on eggshells. When we find ourselves in the midst of a crisis, we often try anything and everything to make things better, to get back … Continue reading →