Dan Dore | Good Guys 2 Great Men

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

Failing Marriage? How to Create a Better Relationship – by Dan Dore

I had to learn this the hard way so I want to give you a head start… I had the best of intentions with regards to my marriage but yet when issues arose I struggled to find a solution to the problems. We focus so much, as men, on the result that we want. More affection, less arguing, more connection, less distance… It’s easy to find faults when a relationship is running off the rails and all our training points us to fixing what’s not working. Plug the hole and she’ll right herself…right? In this video I discuss how our approach is often all wrong and give an alternative way … Continue reading →

How To Know Whether to Fix Your Marriage or Leave it

Over a beer the other day a frustrated man asked me, “How can anyone know if the grass is going to be any greener on the other side?!” He said, “I mean, really, I see just as many guys leaving marriages and being miserable as I see guys staying and being miserable. How do you decide?” I told him, “It depends on whether you go to the other side as fertilizer or dog pee.” That’s when I think I might have pissed him off. *************** Fertilizer or dog pee? WTF does that mean? I explained to him that I’ve seen men leave a marriage in a pissy, angry, resentful and … Continue reading →

How to Create an Intimate Connection with Your Wife – by Dan Dore

I want to talk to you about something that’s very close to my heart. It’s something that has affected every area of my life in a positive way. In particular it has benefited my relationship with my wife and 3 kids enormously. It brought me back from a place of fear and insecurity and reminded me who I really was. I wanted to make this article for those of you in a relationship that is struggling. Where you feel like you’re constantly worried and walking on eggshells. When we find ourselves in the midst of a crisis, we often try anything and everything to make things better, to get back … Continue reading →

No Sex Marriage? Become a Husband With His Confident Swagger Back

My passion for helping men never gets boring. Every single guy…every single woman…and every single situation is unique. That’s why “blanket advice” for any given problem is a problem. Most of the time the solution or response DEPENDS on very nuanced details. Still clients call me and email me with urgent questions for some “quick advice”. Yes, there are a few tried and true tips that apply to almost all situations, like: Never be baited into stupid arguments about stupid shit Never let someone get away with abusive or destructive treatment without calling it out directly Always check your emotional reactions by pausing and being clear about what silly THOUGHT … Continue reading →

Why Your Wife Says You’re Needy and Withholds Sex

Is your wife complaining of your neediness? Has she asked for space or said she feels smothered? I talk a lot about women’s intuition and their ability to FEEL the intentions of men, especially their romantic partners. In a long term relationship, this ability is even more fine-tuned. And when the relationship is starting to struggle, they can actually begin to feel male neediness in almost everything we say and do. This is why we must come to grips with how women may “smell” neediness. More importantly, how can WE see it in ourselves? How do we stop it before it starts? And how do we understand WHERE it came … Continue reading →

How Talking to Other Men Can Make You More Attractive to Your Wife (and Other Women)

I recently took a trip back east to my old stomping grounds to spend time with two very good, old friends. We stayed on my buddy’s huge boat near Ocean City, MD. It was to be a “boys weekend” just to relax and chill. We spent the first night staying up drinking, playing guitar, telling stories and laughing until the sun came up (thanks 5-hour Energy). The next days were more of the same. I relaxed and I chilled out. Mission accomplished. While it fed my need to relax, chill out and have some fun…it didn’t feed my soul. Why? Because feeding our souls requires a little more discomfort. It … Continue reading →

The Quickest Way to Being a More Confident Man

There’s a bond that is like no other when two men commit to helping each other, without hiding anything, without holding anything back. When a man first contacts us he often doesn’t have a certain type of man in his life… A man he can depend on A man he can trust Someone who sees his qualities AND his weaknesses Someone who isn’t scared to tell him something he doesn’t want to hear And so once we start coaching with him, the question he invariably asks is “How can I find other men to do this with?”, “How can I create a mens group of my own?”. In the video … Continue reading →

The Conversation You’re Avoiding That Can Help Save Your Marriage

In a recent email I mentioned having witnessed 90 year old men in nursing homes sitting in wheelchairs and pissing their pants. With a sour scowl on their face they watch the old ladies congregate, connect and laugh with each. They’re angry, disconnected and isolated. I also know a lot of men in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s doing the same thing. I was afraid it might happen to me. This is what happens to men when they have nobody to talk to. These are good men. Sensitive men. Intelligent, aware, emotional and caring men. These are romantic, loving, sexual and interesting men. Sometimes you’ll see us at a … Continue reading →

Why Your Wife Won’t Do What You Want Her To

I’ll never forget the words of a ruddy old horse trainer and the look on his client’s face when he heard them. The client’s horse wouldn’t lope. That’s like a canter in English riding. It’s the next higher gear right after the trot. Well, this guy’s horse would NOT lope. He tried for years to get her to lope. He would plead, kick, yell, make kissing noises and meditate on the problem. Then he would buy a new saddle and some fancy shin boots for the horse. Then a new bridle and bit. Nothing. No matter what he tried the horse would NOT do what he wanted her to do. … Continue reading →