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Why Is My Wife No Longer Attracted To Me?

I’m seeing a very clear and amusing trend in many of the men in my community. What is it? INCREASED SEX APPEAL. What’s this, you ask? Let me answer that with a short story. A while back at one of my men’s bi-weekly meetings in Fort Collins, a guy told us of an interaction with his girlfriend. It came time for him to leave that evening for our men’s meeting and he said, “Oh, I need to get going, I’ve got a meeting to get to.” She said, “What meeting?” He reminded her, “I have my men’s group every two weeks. I mentioned it to you before. Tonight’s our night.” … Continue reading →

5 Steps to Reignite Your Sexless Marriage

I remember the feeling of being confident in every area of my life, achieving at work, a healthy and well proportioned body, good relationships with my kids and family…and yet my confidence around my wife was at an all time low. I tried everything I could think of to show her how much I cared, how important she was to me, how attractive I found her, and she backed away further, told me I was needy, said “I hate the way you make me feel” and even told me I was being creepy. WTF! Fast forward to today and to hearing her say, “I’m so happy and relaxed around you, … Continue reading →

How to Make the Hardest Decision of Your Life

Each day I day talk to men on the hairy edge of making a decision. They may be stuck in the “Limbo Land” of a marriage that is spiraling out of control with no resolution in sight. Or they may feel trapped in a job or career that is sucking their soul out of their body on a daily basis. Or they want to speak their truth to somebody so badly it’s eating them alive and keeping them in a dark, angry place. How do you make a hard decision? How do you break free from the fear of outcome and the fear of someone’s reaction? The answer is to … Continue reading →

How to Lead Your Marriage to More Passion and Connection

Husband leading wife in relationship dance

Do you ever worry that you could be “let go” from your job as husband at any moment? What would you do if that happened? What would you THINK? Do you sometimes have an “employee” mindset in your relationship? This is the main source of discomfort and insecurity for way too many men. If you look at the “position” of husband from the mindset of an employee you will adopt the bad behaviors of a man who feels like a second class citizen in his own home. And THAT will destroy a marriage faster than anything else I can think of. Let me give you an example of two men. … Continue reading →

How to Create More Fun in Your Marriage

Have you ever had that “not so fresh” feeling? I’m not referring to your hygiene. I’m talking about your overall mood, energy level and attitude. I’m talking about those times when you feel almost numb or FLAT. You’re neither high nor low. You’re stuck between first gear and reverse. The engine is running but you’re not going anywhere. And you’re concerned about that. This can happen at any time – good times or bad. I’m usually talking about a guy whose marriage is stuck in limbo and he’s anxious because things aren’t going anywhere. But it also happens to men who have started making improvements. What should you do when … Continue reading →

My Wife Loves The Dog More Than Me – Why?

Have you ever uttered these words under your breath? “Look at her just kissing, rubbing and loving on that dog. He’s getting more of her happy, affectionate attention than I’ve gotten in two months. “ Maybe not those exact words, but I think you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve ever been in that cold, dark, barren “friend zone” with your wife you know what I mean. It’s that constant feeling of rejection and emptiness…just hoping for one little show of attention or affection. And when you see her happily give it to anyone or anything but you the downward spiral of anger and resentment starts. Damn dog. What’s … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex When I Am Upset

“Every time I try to express my emotions to my wife she shuts down. And I know it’ll be about 2 weeks before we’ll have sex again! What the hell is up with that?!” Take a deep breath. Every time I explain how a man’s vulnerability can mess up his sex life someone ends up getting pissed off. He’ll say something like: “Why can’t she accept me and my emotions like I’m supposed to accept hers? Why can’t she have a little compassion and show support for ME sometimes?” This is such a common problem for married men you would think that no woman on earth can handle a man’s … Continue reading →

Wife Always Has an Excuse Not to Have Sex

After over 340,000 views and over 1300 comments, this video of mine has apparently confused a few men. I want to clear up a few things and answer one of the most common comments. “How am I supposed to get a woman if I don’t CHASE them?!” I’ll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and sex with women…I’m asking you to stop the needy pursuit of their acceptance and approval. That should be enough to make my point clear. But let me try for “crystal clear”. I am in 100% support of healthy, happy and confident men pursuing their desire for healthy, happy, loving, … Continue reading →

Why Does My Wife Struggle to Give Affection?

Simple analogies are sometimes the most powerful way to get a point across. Sometimes a guy will hear something for the 100th time but THIS time it’s said slightly differently and suddenly he gets it. A switch is flipped that can not be un-flipped for him. He can’t un-see what he now sees as pure truth. And at this moment he feels empowered to change his thinking…which changes everything he’s been feeling. I used to have a wonderful dog named Kody. He lived to be almost 17 years old which is OLD for a Golden Retriever. And for 17 years, Kody had primarily ONE THING on his mind. It was … Continue reading →

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

The topic for today’s article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn’t she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change this? Our first response is always to look into how you THINK about your current situation. Most of the time you’re so focused on what she says or what you think she’s thinking that you have no idea what’s really … Continue reading →