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How to Reignite the Attraction When Your Wife Says its Gone

The most frequent question I get from clients trying to resuscitate intimacy in their relationship is: “When is She Going to Want Sex With Me Again?!” And my answer is always the same. “I don’t know…and neither does she.” The next question is, “Well, I know she doesn’t want sex right now, but I don’t know if she even WANTS to want sex with me. How can I tell if she even WANTS to want to be intimate again?” Again. “I don’t know…and neither does she.” She may have told you, “I don’t know why I don’t want to have sex. I don’t know when I’ll ever want it. And … Continue reading →

Why Your Wife is Not Interested in Sex and Affection

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There’s a woo-woo Buddhist rule (The Second Noble Truth as they call it) that says: All Suffering is the Result of Desire for Pleasure, Material Goods, and Immortality. What the hell does that mean? And what are you supposed to do with this information? I’ll break it down for you in plain language any guy can understand. At the end of the day our suffering is all about desiring something from a place of scarcity and emptiness VS. desiring something from a place of abundance and fullness. Still too woo-woo maybe. Another way to say exactly what I mean is: Once you become a man who feels okay about himself, … Continue reading →

Make Your Wife Want More Sex With You With This Vulcan Mind Trick

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I know…outrageous article title, right? On one hand, yeah, I want to get your attention. On the other hand, this is not a load of crap. I know a secret that sabotages sex lives around the world…including yours and mine. And in this video I’m going to clearly explain what it is. Then I’m going to tell you why it happens, what you must stop doing today and start doing tomorrow. Bottom line: This is all about THOUGHT CONTROL Early on in your relationship your thoughts were all good, healthy, loving, attractive and very sexy. Therefore, the way you looked, walked and talked supported the undeniable truth that you were … Continue reading →

How to BE More Confident and Attractive to Your Wife

I read something really funny the other day. A man was asked, “What do you think the THREE most important aspects are in a good sex life?” His answer? The proper length/girth ratio Being able to last a minimum of 30 minutes Is there a number 3? This is funny because it’s not far from the truth in how many of us have traditionally measured sexual success and prowess. But in my humble (but correct) opinion, it’s the wrong measure. We do this a lot. Like when it comes to measuring your MOJO. MOJO is an incredible cocktail of groundedness, mental clarity, emotional strength, calmness, confidence, self-respect and peace … Continue reading →

Why Your Wife Says You’re Needy and Withholds Sex

Is your wife complaining of your neediness? Has she asked for space or said she feels smothered? I talk a lot about women’s intuition and their ability to FEEL the intentions of men, especially their romantic partners. In a long term relationship, this ability is even more fine-tuned. And when the relationship is starting to struggle, they can actually begin to feel male neediness in almost everything we say and do. This is why we must come to grips with how women may “smell” neediness. More importantly, how can WE see it in ourselves? How do we stop it before it starts? And how do we understand WHERE it came … Continue reading →

How Talking to Other Men Can Make You More Attractive to Your Wife (and Other Women)

I recently took a trip back east to my old stomping grounds to spend time with two very good, old friends. We stayed on my buddy’s huge boat near Ocean City, MD. It was to be a “boys weekend” just to relax and chill. We spent the first night staying up drinking, playing guitar, telling stories and laughing until the sun came up (thanks 5-hour Energy). The next days were more of the same. I relaxed and I chilled out. Mission accomplished. While it fed my need to relax, chill out and have some fun…it didn’t feed my soul. Why? Because feeding our souls requires a little more discomfort. It … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me – Are You Causing Her to be Distant?

“She says she doesn’t trust me anymore.” “She won’t even talk to me about why she’s so mad.” “She doesn’t believe I’m ever going to change.” These are some of the most common things guys tell me when intimacy and sex are disappearing in their relationship. They want to know why it’s happening. What is she thinking? How do I FIX this. The first part of understanding where you are right now is to understand how you got here. The most important part of healing requires we admit we have a problem. What’s the problem? Distancing, disconnection and distrust are almost always created by the same thing. It’s usually NOT … Continue reading →

This Habit Makes You Awkward Around Your Wife and Kills Your Sex Life

There this thing I do every now and then that sucks the wind out of my sails quicker than…(insert your own metaphor here). I have a feeling you might do this sometimes too. It’s a crippling habit that fills a man with doubt, uncertainty and indecision. It creates a general mindset of inadequacy and sometimes-even ENVY. What’s the habit? COMPARING YOURSELF AND YOUR SITUATION TO OTHER PEOPLE! Sometimes I compare my business to my friends’ and colleagues’ businesses to see where I stand. Sometimes I compare my lifestyle and where I live to people who seem to be happier…and warmer! Sometimes I compare my level of productivity to other men … Continue reading →

Why Being Vulnerable with Your Wife is Sexy (and How it Can also Turn Her Off)

This might get a little messy. I know how it feels to be judged or criticized for how “manly” I’m being. This isn’t meant to judge or criticize. It’s inside information – secret insight into the world of women and how they process masculine vulnerability and sensitivity. I’m not saying this is the way it SHOULD be. But as of now – this is a reality you need to be aware of. What’s the reality? Women can be turned off immediately by our unbridled emotions. If you are concerned about whether your emotions are arousing or annoying the women in your life, listen up. Our female partners are NOT our … Continue reading →

Sexless Marriage? How to Become Attractive to Your Wife Again

I talked to a man today whose wife has been detached, disinterested, dismissive and disrespectful. She wants her space and independence and has pretty much designed a life of her own including weekends and vacations. She thinks he should find his own life too and learn to be happy. He said he wanted to stop reacting so badly and learn to respond better to this new dynamic she’s created. “What’s the difference between reacting and responding in this case?” he asked. I told him that reactions come from a place of fear and insecurity. They almost always sound like questions and veiled threats with a nervous voice. They sound like … Continue reading →