How To Make Your Wife Want Sex Without Chasing Her
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I saw this question in one of our private Facebook groups today.
An unsatisfied, unhappy and unfulfilled husband expressed his desire to make his wife be more turned on by him. He wanted a great sex life with her! (who doesn’t, right?)
Then another man in the group answered with a simple question.
Do you want a great sex life or a great life that includes sex?
Sometimes a powerful question is more important than a powerful answer.
It points to a very simple “punch in the nose” reality. This is a punch that keeps coming back for more every time we forget this simple truth. (and boy is my nose sore)
Unsatisfied, unhappy and unfulfilled men don’t have much sex.
And it’s common for us to believe that if she only had more desire and passion for us, everything would be better.
As I explain in this video, we can never get enough of what we don’t really need to be happy.
Being a satisfied, happy, fulfilled man is a place we must learn to come from.
Here’s another punch in the nose.
We have no business griping about a lack of turn-on from others if we aren’t turned on within ourselves.
Turn-on is an energy of excitement, enthusiasm and passion for something.
If we lack this turn-on in our own sense of self-respect, nobody else can be turned on by us.
If we lack this turn-on in our career or business, our sexual appeal will be lukewarm at best.
If we lack this turn-on in how we parent our kids or engage with our friends and family, how can we expect to turn-on any woman?
TURN-ON is an inside job and it’s the number one variable affecting your wife’s ability to feel turned on by you.
In other words, you must be a man who is more focused on leading a great life that includes sex than one who is simply focused on having a great sex life.
Here’s what a recent coaching client just emailed to me:
“My wife and I have been married for almost 12 years and for the last two, we have been really struggling to productively deal with my anger, depression and anxiety due to my sexual frustration at the lack of intimacy in our marriage. I am very successful professionally and in all other areas, my life is great….yet I have fallen into the cycle of letting my mojo and confidence be filled ONLY through sex with my wife. Thank you, Thank You, Thank You for reminding me of who I really am and helping me kill that annoying, needy version of me.”
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
If your confidence rises and falls with your wife’s desire, it’s time to get your life back under you.
You may be successful at work, loyal at home, and still feel like the rejected, frustrated version of you has taken over. That’s not the man you really are. At Goodguys2Greatmen, we’ll help you get your mojo back from the inside so you can stop chasing sex and start living like a man a woman can feel drawn to again.
Talk to a coach →Q: How do I make my wife want sex with me again?
A: You make your wife more likely to want sex with you by becoming a man who is already alive, confident, and engaged in his own life. Desire doesn’t grow well under pressure. If your mood, confidence, and self-worth all depend on her saying yes, she’ll feel the weight of that before she feels attraction.
Q: What does Steve mean by a great life that includes sex?
A: A great life that includes sex means your joy, purpose, and masculine energy don’t depend on sex alone. Sex matters. Affection matters. But when a man makes his whole life about getting desire from his wife, he often loses the very energy that made him attractive in the first place.
Q: Why does my sexual frustration make my wife want me less?
A: Sexual frustration can make your wife want you less when it comes out as anger, pressure, sulking, or quiet resentment. She may not hear “I miss you.” She may feel “You’re responsible for fixing me.” That energy kills desire because it turns sex into a job instead of a shared pleasure.
Q: Is it wrong to want a great sex life with my wife?
A: It’s not wrong to want a great sex life with your wife, and Steve wouldn’t tell you to pretend it doesn’t matter. The problem starts when sex becomes the only place you look for confidence, peace, and proof that you’re okay. That’s too much weight for any marriage to carry.
Q: What if every other part of my life is good except sex?
A: If every other part of your life is good except sex, your next move isn’t to obsess harder over sex. It’s to look at how much of your identity you’ve handed over to your wife’s desire. Many successful men still lose their mojo at home because they need sex to tell them who they are.
Q: What does turn-on being an inside job mean?
A: Turn-on being an inside job means your energy starts with how you respect yourself, live your purpose, handle your work, parent your kids, and engage with life. Your wife responds to the man you’re being, not just the request you’re making. Desire grows around a man who is already lit up inside.
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