How to Make Your Wife Feel More Sexually Drawn to You
I saw this question in one of our private Facebook groups today.
An unsatisfied, unhappy and unfulfilled husband expressed his desire to make his wife be more turned on by him. He wanted a great sex life with her! (who doesn’t, right?)
Then another man in the group answered with a simple question.
Do you want a great sex life or a great life that includes sex?
Sometimes a powerful question is more important than a powerful answer.
It points to a very simple “punch in the nose” reality. This is a punch that keeps coming back for more every time we forget this simple truth. (and boy is my nose sore)
Unsatisfied, unhappy and unfulfilled men don’t have much sex.
And it’s common for us to believe that if she only had more desire and passion for us, everything would be better.
As I explain in this video, we can never get enough of what we don’t really need to be happy.
Being a satisfied, happy, fulfilled man is a place we must learn to come from.
Here’s another punch in the nose.
We have no business griping about a lack of turn-on from others if we aren’t turned on within ourselves.
Turn-on is an energy of excitement, enthusiasm and passion for something.
If we lack this turn-on in our own sense of self-respect, nobody else can be turned on by us.
If we lack this turn-on in our career or business, our sexual appeal will be lukewarm at best.
If we lack this turn-on in how we parent our kids or engage with our friends and family, how can we expect to turn-on any woman?
TURN-ON is an inside job and it’s the number one variable affecting your wife’s ability to feel turned on by you.
In other words, you must be a man who is more focused on leading a great life that includes sex than one who is simply focused on having a great sex life.
Here’s what a recent coaching client just emailed to me:
“My wife and I have been married for almost 12 years and for the last two, we have been really struggling to productively deal with my anger, depression and anxiety due to my sexual frustration at the lack of intimacy in our marriage. I am very successful professionally and in all other areas, my life is great….yet I have fallen into the cycle of letting my mojo and confidence be filled ONLY through sex with my wife. Thank you, Thank You, Thank You for reminding me of who I really am and helping me kill that annoying, needy version of me.”
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Stop asking sex to give you your confidence back.
You may be successful everywhere else and still feel needy, angry, or defeated when intimacy disappears. We help men rebuild the part of themselves that got handed over to their wife’s desire, so they can lead a satisfying life and bring stronger energy back into the marriage. The goal isn’t to stop wanting sex. It’s to stop needing sex to feel like yourself.
Talk to a coach →Q: How do I make my wife want to be sexual with me again?
A: You become more sexually appealing by rebuilding the confidence, enthusiasm, and self-respect that don’t depend on your wife’s desire. You can’t force her to feel turned on. You can stop approaching her from frustration and neediness while becoming more engaged with your work, friendships, family, health, and the rest of your life.
Q: What does it mean to have a great life that includes sex?
A: It means sex matters to you without becoming the only proof that your life or marriage is good. You build a satisfying life through meaningful work, strong relationships, personal interests, and respect for yourself. Sex becomes one valuable part of that life instead of the single source of confidence, closeness, and relief.
Q: Why does needing sex make my wife want it less?
A: Needing sex to feel confident places a heavy job on your wife and turns intimacy into emotional maintenance. She may sense that every affectionate moment carries an expectation and every rejection will damage your mood. Desire usually struggles under that weight. Sex feels different when it comes from mutual interest instead of pressure to repair you.
Q: What does “turn-on is an inside job” mean?
A: It means your energy begins with how interested you are in your own life. A man who’s engaged, purposeful, playful, and proud of how he lives carries a different presence than a man waiting for sex to wake him up. Your wife doesn’t create that spark inside you. She can respond to it once you’re creating it yourself.
Q: But what if every other part of my life is already going well?
A: Professional success doesn’t automatically create personal fulfillment or sexual confidence. You can earn well, provide for your family, and look successful while quietly relying on your wife’s desire to tell you that you’re still attractive and valuable. The work is learning to feel solid in yourself even when intimacy remains uncertain for a while.
Q: Does focusing on myself mean I should stop trying to improve our sex life?
A: Focusing on yourself doesn’t mean ignoring the sexual problem or pretending your needs don’t matter. It means addressing the problem without making your wife responsible for your entire emotional state. Goodguys2Greatmen helps men speak honestly about intimacy while rebuilding the confidence and direction that make those conversations less desperate and more useful.
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