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How to Make the Hardest Decision of Your Life

Each day I day talk to men on the hairy edge of making a decision. They may be stuck in the “Limbo Land” of a marriage that is spiraling out of control with no resolution in sight. Or they may feel trapped in a job or career that is sucking their soul out of their body on a daily basis. Or they want to speak their truth to somebody so badly it’s eating them alive and keeping them in a dark, angry place. How do you make a hard decision? How do you break free from the fear of outcome and the fear of someone’s reaction? The answer is to … Continue reading →

How to Stop Being Anxious About Your Marriage Problems

I was running through the woods the other day on my quest to lose a few of my wintry pounds. I like variety and can’t do the same thing over and over again. So I thought I’d do some trail running in the woods behind the house. Apparently, you’re supposed to look where you’re going. I was looking down, preoccupied with not falling when a sneaky tree branch came out of nowhere and knocked me in the head. I was only looking at my next step – with no idea where I was headed or what to expect. It’s a great metaphor and reminder if you’re ever feeling out of … Continue reading →

“I Need Space” How to Give Space AND Improve Your Marriage

The three words that make your neck hairs stand up and your gut tighten into nauseous knots are… “I need space!” I’ve talked a lot in videos about this issue, like here…and here. Those videos talk about what to think about her request for space and how to know whether it’s really a request for divorce. This article is about the PRESSURE she feels and the distinction between the BAD pressure you must stop and the GOOD pressure you must start. Even if you wind up divorced, you must understand the difference and become a master of applying GOOD pressure – everywhere in your life. Let me explain this in … Continue reading →

My Wife is Never Loving and Affectionate Toward Me

One way to get unconditional love and affection and to be given god-like status is to pay for it. There are women who make a very good living of it. They will forgive you all of your misgivings, ignore all of your bad habits and will give you everything you want without argument or hesitation. And, hey, I don’t judge you if you go that route. Another way to get unconditional love is to get a dog. They too are incredibly devoted and forgiving. As a predator, they don’t operate from fear, distrust and suspicion. But the women in your real relationships are different, aren’t they? If you want a … Continue reading →

The Path From Feeling Anxious and Frustrated to a Calmer, Sexier Man

Here’s one fact I know about a man’s sex life. If he spends much time feeling anxious, agitated, irritated, overwhelmed or angry…he isn’t having much sex. Why? Simple. When we’re feeling those emotions we’re just not very sexy men. I know what you’re thinking. Sometimes sex is the BEST remedy for those ailments. I agree! But if your mood is really shitty at the moment, self remedy is probably the only good option. How do you get yourself out of a perpetual shitty mood and learn to relax and be your normal, sexy self again? I have no idea how YOU do it. I only know about me and I’ll … Continue reading →