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Wife Always Has an Excuse Not to Have Sex

After over 340,000 views and over 1300 comments, this video of mine has apparently confused a few men. I want to clear up a few things and answer one of the most common comments. “How am I supposed to get a woman if I don’t CHASE them?!” I’ll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and sex with women…I’m asking you to stop the needy pursuit of their acceptance and approval. That should be enough to make my point clear. But let me try for “crystal clear”. I am in 100% support of healthy, happy and confident men pursuing their desire for healthy, happy, loving, … Continue reading →

Why Does My Wife Struggle to Give Affection?

Simple analogies are sometimes the most powerful way to get a point across. Sometimes a guy will hear something for the 100th time but THIS time it’s said slightly differently and suddenly he gets it. A switch is flipped that can not be un-flipped for him. He can’t un-see what he now sees as pure truth. And at this moment he feels empowered to change his thinking…which changes everything he’s been feeling. I used to have a wonderful dog named Kody. He lived to be almost 17 years old which is OLD for a Golden Retriever. And for 17 years, Kody had primarily ONE THING on his mind. It was … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Not a Strong Man

Don’t be afraid. This is actually going to help you…a lot. Remember, I write these articles and make my videos for a slightly younger version of me. The fact that you may relate to these topics is pure coincidence. I originally wrote this article as an email and the title was “When Did YOU Hand Over the James Bond Lipstick Tube of Whoop-Ass to Your Wife?” So when I suggest you may have handed over a secret, James Bond 007 lipstick tube of whoop-ass to your wife or girlfriend – I’m talking from experience. Even though the men I work with are rock stars in the domain of their chosen … Continue reading →

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

The topic for today’s article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn’t she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change this? Our first response is always to look into how you THINK about your current situation. Most of the time you’re so focused on what she says or what you think she’s thinking that you have no idea what’s really … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Wants to Leave Me, What Should I Do?

unhappy wife emotional conversation with husband

The top four questions men ask upon learning their wife wants to leave are: What did I do to deserve this? Why didn’t she tell me she was unhappy? How could she think breaking up the family is a good idea? Why won’t she at least give me a chance to change? My first answer is always: It’s Not All About You, Brother It’s perfectly normal for you to think her decision to separate or divorce is all about you. After all, if you believe it’s all your fault then you’ve got a chance to fix it! This is the most frustrating part because you begin to learn it isn’t … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Do I Do?

Death by female. For most of the men in my community, that’s the one shared pain. And that’s what I usually say when people ask, “What the hell is it you do again?” I tell them there comes a time in the life of many (MANY!) good men when their world comes crashing down. And I help them transform themselves and their relationships when it happens. When you consider women initiate nearly 70% of all divorces, which means there are scads of men who are caught like a deer in the headlights. As you may know, I teach men that this process normally starts for her about 2 years before he … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It’s an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN’S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What’s the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It’s the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants. Let me make this really clear. She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow: Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return … Continue reading →

10 Signs Your Marriage is in Big Trouble

I’m usually skeptical of “lists” that promise to give you the secret to anything. They lack depth and explanation and aren’t immediately useful – just “click bait” to make you open the damn article. Not so with the list in this video. In fact, there’s about 50 MINUTES of clear explanation with this list. Two weeks ago I promised to share an interview with a “rock star couples coach”. I’m here to deliver. Bruce Muzik has been helping couples create a more connected, secure, happy and intimate life together for many years. He’s accumulated a wealth of insight and wisdom and I love his depth and the confidence with which … Continue reading →

My Wife Just Said She Wants A Divorce, What Now?

Death by Female. That’s the tongue-in-cheek phrase I’ve adopted to describe the type of man who tends to read my newsletters. Somehow, some way, somewhere along the way you’ve been made aware that things aren’t right. She’s not happy. She’s doesn’t talk to you or look at you like before. Her cold, dismissive and often disrespectful attitude toward you feels like a daily dagger in the gut. The new friends, new tattoo, new smoking habit, new social calendar and missing wedding rings are just a few of the clues jacking with your confidence. Then she utters, I think we need time apart. I need space. Maybe we’re not right for … Continue reading →

The Kind Of Man Who Can Save His Marriage From Divorce

I was at a men’s seminar a few years ago with Alex Allman and Sean Stephenson. These are two very confident masculine men. Alex looks like a typical 6 foot, handsome, ladies man. Sean is about 3 feet tall and is confined to a wheel chair with brittle bone disease he’s had since birth. There was a guy in the audience who was getting frustrated and asked the question that most of us have thought about but never asked. “Why is it so hard to connect with a woman and feel appreciated and get the affection and passion we want in a relationship?” Sean rolled his wheel chair across the … Continue reading →