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My Wife Abuses Me, What Should I Do?

I may lose a few subscribers with this article…but it must be done. My hope for this message is to challenge and empower you to think differently about feeling offended, insulted, manipulated, controlled or abused. The internet abounds with countless experts trying to help people know when they are being abused and how to escape their evil perpetrators. These experts arm them with tips, tools and vocabulary to identify their manipulative, controlling, domineering and narcissistic abusers. “Abuse” is the new relationship battle cry and public enemy #1. It’s creating armies of otherwise healthy men and women who spend a LOT of time and energy indicting their persecutors. Then they spend … Continue reading →

FREE Live Tribe Brotherhood Group Calls

It’s a very simple concept. Men need other men for support, guidance, encouragement and brotherly love. Period. And especially when sh*t hits the fan…say… like a global pandemic, we need each other more than ever. That’s why we are continuing our free, live men’s group support Zoom calls for connection, conversation, sharing and laughing. Every week, one of our coaches from all over the world will be hosting a 90-minute session. The coaches will introduce a topic to kick things off, but we want YOU to be a part of the conversation, so bring your questions and concerns to the brotherhood. This is open to ANY MAN reading this…not just … Continue reading →

Why Is My Wife No Longer Attracted To Me?

I’m seeing a very clear and amusing trend in many of the men in my community. What is it? INCREASED SEX APPEAL. What’s this, you ask? Let me answer that with a short story. A while back at one of my men’s bi-weekly meetings in Fort Collins, a guy told us of an interaction with his girlfriend. It came time for him to leave that evening for our men’s meeting and he said, “Oh, I need to get going, I’ve got a meeting to get to.” She said, “What meeting?” He reminded her, “I have my men’s group every two weeks. I mentioned it to you before. Tonight’s our night.” … Continue reading →

How Can I Be More Confident In My Marriage?

There’s a very special trait many of the men in our “tribe” have in common and it drives them absolutely crazy. What is it? It’s the feeling of LOST CONFIDENCE. Have you ever felt this? This is what it sounds like: “I used to be so self-assured. Back in college and when I first met my wife I felt like I had it all figured out. Nobody could knock me off emotional balance and I felt strong. I was in control of my life and felt like I had everything I needed to stay that way. But…not anymore. My wife/girlfriend can knock me backwards with just a look and I … Continue reading →

5 Steps to Reignite Your Sexless Marriage

I remember the feeling of being confident in every area of my life, achieving at work, a healthy and well proportioned body, good relationships with my kids and family…and yet my confidence around my wife was at an all time low. I tried everything I could think of to show her how much I cared, how important she was to me, how attractive I found her, and she backed away further, told me I was needy, said “I hate the way you make me feel” and even told me I was being creepy. WTF! Fast forward to today and to hearing her say, “I’m so happy and relaxed around you, … Continue reading →

How to Make the Hardest Decision of Your Life

Each day I day talk to men on the hairy edge of making a decision. They may be stuck in the “Limbo Land” of a marriage that is spiraling out of control with no resolution in sight. Or they may feel trapped in a job or career that is sucking their soul out of their body on a daily basis. Or they want to speak their truth to somebody so badly it’s eating them alive and keeping them in a dark, angry place. How do you make a hard decision? How do you break free from the fear of outcome and the fear of someone’s reaction? The answer is to … Continue reading →

How to Lead Your Marriage to More Passion and Connection

Husband leading wife in relationship dance

Do you ever worry that you could be “let go” from your job as husband at any moment? What would you do if that happened? What would you THINK? Do you sometimes have an “employee” mindset in your relationship? This is the main source of discomfort and insecurity for way too many men. If you look at the “position” of husband from the mindset of an employee you will adopt the bad behaviors of a man who feels like a second class citizen in his own home. And THAT will destroy a marriage faster than anything else I can think of. Let me give you an example of two men. … Continue reading →

How to Create More Fun in Your Marriage

Have you ever had that “not so fresh” feeling? I’m not referring to your hygiene. I’m talking about your overall mood, energy level and attitude. I’m talking about those times when you feel almost numb or FLAT. You’re neither high nor low. You’re stuck between first gear and reverse. The engine is running but you’re not going anywhere. And you’re concerned about that. This can happen at any time – good times or bad. I’m usually talking about a guy whose marriage is stuck in limbo and he’s anxious because things aren’t going anywhere. But it also happens to men who have started making improvements. What should you do when … Continue reading →

She Needs Space – Don’t React Like This!

The three words that make your neck hairs stand up and your gut tighten into nauseous knots are… “I need space!” I’ve talked a lot in videos about this issue, like here…and here. Those videos talk about what to think about her request for space and how to know whether it’s really a request for divorce. This article is about the PRESSURE she feels and the distinction between the BAD pressure you must stop and the GOOD pressure you must start. Even if you wind up divorced, you must understand the difference and become a master of applying GOOD pressure – everywhere in your life. Let me explain this in … Continue reading →

My Wife Says “You need to work on yourself”

From 1999 to 2005 I owned and operated a Bed & Breakfast (and Horse Hotel) in the mountains of northern Colorado. Many of my guests were from a large Buddhist retreat center about a mile down the road. These were people seriously into “personal growth work” and many were repeat guests. They learned how to meditate, how to be mindful, how to be kind to themselves, how to witness their own thoughts and how to end their suffering by detaching from their desires…and lots of other cool stuff. In fact, if you read much of the stuff I write about that cool stuff may sound oddly similar. Most personal development … Continue reading →