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My Wife Abuses Me, What Should I Do?

I may lose a few subscribers with this article…but it must be done. My hope for this message is to challenge and empower you to think differently about feeling offended, insulted, manipulated, controlled or abused. The internet abounds with countless experts trying to help people know when they are being abused and how to escape their evil perpetrators. These experts arm them with tips, tools and vocabulary to identify their manipulative, controlling, domineering and narcissistic abusers. “Abuse” is the new relationship battle cry and public enemy #1. It’s creating armies of otherwise healthy men and women who spend a LOT of time and energy indicting their persecutors. Then they spend … Continue reading →

She Needs Space – Don’t React Like This!

The three words that make your neck hairs stand up and your gut tighten into nauseous knots are… “I need space!” I’ve talked a lot in videos about this issue, like here…and here. Those videos talk about what to think about her request for space and how to know whether it’s really a request for divorce. This article is about the PRESSURE she feels and the distinction between the BAD pressure you must stop and the GOOD pressure you must start. Even if you wind up divorced, you must understand the difference and become a master of applying GOOD pressure – everywhere in your life. Let me explain this in … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Controlling, What Do I Do Now?

Sometimes we get our best ideas at the most awkward times…like on the toilet. There I was, reading an old issue of Rolling Stones magazine and an interview with the late Glenn Frey of the band The Eagles. My favorite band of all time, by the way. Anyway, I read a quote he made during an interview and it gave me a flash of insight – an idea – and there was no pen in sight. The interviewer commented how amazing it was that the band could so closely reproduce in live concert the perfect vocal harmonies and instrumentation they achieved on their records. Glenn said, “Yeah, with so many … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →

Turn Your Angry Wife Into a Purring Pussycat

Since I don’t have kids, I don’t normally give much parenting advice. Although the “man skills” I teach are totally transferable to parenting nothing beats a great true story to illustrate a point. My buddy, Jeff, told me a story today about his unruly 15-year-old who went ballistic when Jeff took his phone away. I don’t just mean ballistic. I mean all out warfare. What do you do when someone with a 15-year-old mindset and maturity does something so outrageous that you feel like throwing him through a wall? I found out the answer today when Jeff shared this great story. I love how he handled it. Jeff Allen is … Continue reading →

How to Initiate Sex and Not Get Rejected

This article may piss off a few people…but I don’t care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I’ve had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don’t NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw. Too simple you say? I think not. This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Needy, How Can I Be More Confident?

How do you know if you’re being too needy? You know…smothering, joined at the hip, invasive, pestering and insecure. I remember those days well. And how do you know if you’re being too independent? You know…detached, selfish, distant, inattentive, dismissive, self-absorbed and asshole-ish. I remember those days well too. The problem is that it’s EASY for us to fall into either of those modes if we’re not awake and aware. And nothing good happens when that happens. That’s what this email and video are all about. I want to help you become more aware of who you are being so you can better create what you really want. In the … Continue reading →

I Hate My Wife, How do I Create a Passionate Marriage Again?

Do you ever let your thoughts of your “future relationship” piss you off in the present moment? Do you ever project negative thoughts on your lady and then get grumpy and mean just thinking about negative stuff? Do you fear things not working out tomorrow so much that you’ve become an agitated asshole today? That’s what this woman I met had decided SHE was doing. Here’s the quick story. “Joanna” told me she had an amazing epiphany one morning. She realized she was waking up nearly every day in a foul mood. She was irritated, bitchy and whiny from the “get go”. And it was all aimed right at her … Continue reading →

Unattractive Neediness – What to Do if Your Wife Calls You Needy

Warning: This article might sting. I wrote it as if I was writing it to a slightly younger version of myself. This comes from my past. If you relate to what I’m about to tell you and it turns out you’re a little needy, I assure you that there is a brighter future ahead. Here are some of the most aggravating things a man can hear from a woman. “You’re so damn needy!” “You smother me!” “Why can’t you get a life?” “I need my space!” ….and my favorite country song title: “How Can I Miss You if You Won’t Leave?!” Being called “needy” is one of the most embarrassing, … Continue reading →

How Your Silence May Be Creating Your Detached Wife

Unhappy wife after argument with husband

I’ve talked a lot lately about anger and how badly it can screw up your relationship. You know by now that a pissy, angry guy is doomed to create a pissy, angry life everywhere he goes. Women aren’t attracted to him. Kids are afraid of him. And dogs don’t trust him. But forget about them for a minute. Think about what pissy anger does to you. I know, it’s not like you WANT to feel pissy and angry. You wouldn’t pick this mood if you thought you actually had a choice, would you? Or do you believe that anger (like shit) just happens? Not quite, brother. If you would rather … Continue reading →