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Being More Confident and Masculine in Your Marriage

Some days I can feel like a big fat wuss. You? You know those days of camping out too long on the couch…putting off a list of things you want to do but just can’t find the energy. Sometimes our mojo (self-worth and self-confidence) just takes a major dive and leaves us feeling weak and insignificant. Most men can remember a time in their life when they felt pretty cocksure about themselves. Maybe it was in school, sports, games, technology…whatever. There’s usually a time in our life we can remember when we thought we were doing okay and actually had a little badassery going on. Then the time comes in … Continue reading →

Wife Wants a Divorce? How to Stop the Crushing Fear and Loneliness

This week I decided to fly right toward Hurricane Florence and you’ll never guess what happened. I almost didn’t leave Colorado. The forecasts were dim. Negative Nellie’s told me to cancel my trip. “You might get stuck on the east coast for days!”, they said. So what did I do? I drove 2 hours to Denver International Airport and jumped on a plane flying straight for Hurricane Florence. Well, actually, it was to Baltimore…but close enough. I decided to assume the best and accept the worst. But the the worst never happened. It usually never does. Read that again. The worst things we imagine almost never come true. And as … Continue reading →

How To Turn Your Unhappy Marriage Into a Happy One

Some guys consistently create their own pain and they don’t even know it. How’s that, you say? I mean they manufacture drama, conflict and tension by trying to protect their ego’s need to “be right”. It’s that insecure, indignant part of us who needs show other people the error of their ways. I came so close to doing this yesterday I almost jumped off the emotional cliff by pummeling a body shop with my anger and frustration. My 2002 truck was in for hail damage and a general face-lift for THIRTY DAYS when they had promised to be done in 14 days – tops. My issue is less about the … Continue reading →

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →

Turn Your Angry Wife Into a Purring Pussycat

Since I don’t have kids, I don’t normally give much parenting advice. Although the “man skills” I teach are totally transferable to parenting nothing beats a great true story to illustrate a point. My buddy, Jeff, told me a story today about his unruly 15-year-old who went ballistic when Jeff took his phone away. I don’t just mean ballistic. I mean all out warfare. What do you do when someone with a 15-year-old mindset and maturity does something so outrageous that you feel like throwing him through a wall? I found out the answer today when Jeff shared this great story. I love how he handled it. Jeff Allen is … Continue reading →

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

calm mountain lion is like a confident man

The mountain lion speaks to me because he’s the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular…he just IS. This is what makes him so regal – so magnetic – so attractive. It’s the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He’s focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time. He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama. They say “the lion doesn’t turn around when the small dog barks”. And a Nigerian proverb says “The roaring lion kills no prey.” He doesn’t over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only … Continue reading →

How to Initiate Sex and Not Get Rejected

This article may piss off a few people…but I don’t care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I’ve had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don’t NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw. Too simple you say? I think not. This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It’s an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN’S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What’s the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It’s the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants. Let me make this really clear. She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow: Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return … Continue reading →

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am. It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.” What’s my point here? Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody. I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun? If you don’t know something then saying NO … Continue reading →