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My Wife Says “You need to work on yourself”

From 1999 to 2005 I owned and operated a Bed & Breakfast (and Horse Hotel) in the mountains of northern Colorado. Many of my guests were from a large Buddhist retreat center about a mile down the road. These were people seriously into “personal growth work” and many were repeat guests. They learned how to meditate, how to be mindful, how to be kind to themselves, how to witness their own thoughts and how to end their suffering by detaching from their desires…and lots of other cool stuff. In fact, if you read much of the stuff I write about that cool stuff may sound oddly similar. Most personal development … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Not a Strong Man

Don’t be afraid. This is actually going to help you…a lot. Remember, I write these articles and make my videos for a slightly younger version of me. The fact that you may relate to these topics is pure coincidence. I originally wrote this article as an email and the title was “When Did YOU Hand Over the James Bond Lipstick Tube of Whoop-Ass to Your Wife?” So when I suggest you may have handed over a secret, James Bond 007 lipstick tube of whoop-ass to your wife or girlfriend – I’m talking from experience. Even though the men I work with are rock stars in the domain of their chosen … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Wants to Leave Me, What Should I Do?

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The top four questions men ask upon learning their wife wants to leave are: What did I do to deserve this? Why didn’t she tell me she was unhappy? How could she think breaking up the family is a good idea? Why won’t she at least give me a chance to change? My first answer is always: It’s Not All About You, Brother It’s perfectly normal for you to think her decision to separate or divorce is all about you. After all, if you believe it’s all your fault then you’ve got a chance to fix it! This is the most frustrating part because you begin to learn it isn’t … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Do I Do?

Death by female. For most of the men in my community, that’s the one shared pain. And that’s what I usually say when people ask, “What the hell is it you do again?” I tell them there comes a time in the life of many (MANY!) good men when their world comes crashing down. And I help them transform themselves and their relationships when it happens. When you consider women initiate nearly 70% of all divorces, which means there are scads of men who are caught like a deer in the headlights. As you may know, I teach men that this process normally starts for her about 2 years before he … Continue reading →

The Kind Of Man Who Can Save His Marriage From Divorce

I was at a men’s seminar a few years ago with Alex Allman and Sean Stephenson. These are two very confident masculine men. Alex looks like a typical 6 foot, handsome, ladies man. Sean is about 3 feet tall and is confined to a wheel chair with brittle bone disease he’s had since birth. There was a guy in the audience who was getting frustrated and asked the question that most of us have thought about but never asked. “Why is it so hard to connect with a woman and feel appreciated and get the affection and passion we want in a relationship?” Sean rolled his wheel chair across the … Continue reading →