From 1999 to 2005 I owned and operated a Bed & Breakfast (and Horse Hotel) in the mountains of northern Colorado.
Many of my guests were from a large Buddhist retreat center about a mile down the road.
These were people seriously into “personal growth work” and many were repeat guests.
They learned how to meditate, how to be mindful, how to be kind to themselves, how to witness their own thoughts and how to end their suffering by detaching from their desires…and lots of other cool stuff.
In fact, if you read much of the stuff I write about that cool stuff may sound oddly similar. Most personal development stuff does. It gives you a shot in the ass for the moment and is easy to consume. It can be as habit-forming as a bag of “Sea Salt and Vinegar” potato chips. (my weakness)
And that’s the problem.
Personal growth work can often be a long-term diet of cotton candy quotes and cliches.
Do you ever find yourself gorging on personal development books, videos, podcasts or retreats only to find yourself right back where you started a few weeks later?
I saw that a LOT from my Buddhist B&B guests. They never seemed to “grow” or “develop”. They seemed to be in a perpetual dark funk searching for answers. And they returned every few months for another hit of cotton candy.
Their “personal growth work” was really a crock of sh*t. Just going through the motions.
In this video, I explain what I think they were missing.
Does this apply to you?
That’s what was missing.
“Accountability separates the wishers in life from the action takers who care enough about their future to account for their daily actions.” ~ John Di Lemme
I started some personal development in the 80’s reading stuff about leadership and management. Then there was “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” which made me think deeply about my own habits and thoughts about success.
I kept those thoughts to myself for the next 15 years. I had nobody to talk to about my secret fears and ambitions to actually IMPLEMENT the things in those books that moved me emotionally.
As a result, I made no real changes and continued to let life happen to me and reacted the best I could.
Then at age 50 I discovered the miracle of working with other men. These were men who challenged me, pushed me and believed in me more than I believed in myself.
I learned that my prior lackluster life was the result of keeping my “personal development” a big secret from the world. Most of my friends were not interested in talking about the stuff that was putting knots in my gut. The knots were my desire to go deeper.
I had zero accountability to myself. And I had no one to help hold me accountable. No parent. No teacher. No mentor.
This is why I created Goodguys2Greatmen.
I wanted to recreate my experience of being in a powerful, supportive brotherhood of really smart, caring men. These are men who relish in the challenge of thinking bigger, speaking more unapologetically and taking bold actions.
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