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How to Lead Your Marriage to More Passion and Connection

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Do you ever worry that you could be “let go” from your job as husband at any moment? What would you do if that happened? What would you THINK? Do you sometimes have an “employee” mindset in your relationship? This is the main source of discomfort and insecurity for way too many men. If you look at the “position” of husband from the mindset of an employee you will adopt the bad behaviors of a man who feels like a second class citizen in his own home. And THAT will destroy a marriage faster than anything else I can think of. Let me give you an example of two men. … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex When I Am Upset

“Every time I try to express my emotions to my wife she shuts down. And I know it’ll be about 2 weeks before we’ll have sex again! What the hell is up with that?!” Take a deep breath. Every time I explain how a man’s vulnerability can mess up his sex life someone ends up getting pissed off. He’ll say something like: “Why can’t she accept me and my emotions like I’m supposed to accept hers? Why can’t she have a little compassion and show support for ME sometimes?” This is such a common problem for married men you would think that no woman on earth can handle a man’s … Continue reading →

Why Does My Wife Struggle to Give Affection?

Simple analogies are sometimes the most powerful way to get a point across. Sometimes a guy will hear something for the 100th time but THIS time it’s said slightly differently and suddenly he gets it. A switch is flipped that can not be un-flipped for him. He can’t un-see what he now sees as pure truth. And at this moment he feels empowered to change his thinking…which changes everything he’s been feeling. I used to have a wonderful dog named Kody. He lived to be almost 17 years old which is OLD for a Golden Retriever. And for 17 years, Kody had primarily ONE THING on his mind. It was … Continue reading →

How To Turn Your Unhappy Marriage Into a Happy One

Some guys consistently create their own pain and they don’t even know it. How’s that, you say? I mean they manufacture drama, conflict and tension by trying to protect their ego’s need to “be right”. It’s that insecure, indignant part of us who needs show other people the error of their ways. I came so close to doing this yesterday I almost jumped off the emotional cliff by pummeling a body shop with my anger and frustration. My 2002 truck was in for hail damage and a general face-lift for THIRTY DAYS when they had promised to be done in 14 days – tops. My issue is less about the … Continue reading →

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It’s an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN’S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What’s the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It’s the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants. Let me make this really clear. She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow: Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return … Continue reading →

Failing Marriage? How to Create a Better Relationship – by Dan Dore

I had to learn this the hard way so I want to give you a head start… I had the best of intentions with regards to my marriage but yet when issues arose I struggled to find a solution to the problems. We focus so much, as men, on the result that we want. More affection, less arguing, more connection, less distance… It’s easy to find faults when a relationship is running off the rails and all our training points us to fixing what’s not working. Plug the hole and she’ll right herself…right? In this video I discuss how our approach is often all wrong and give an alternative way … Continue reading →

The Counter-Intuitive Way to Become More Attractive to Your Wife

A client once told me a story about his new girlfriend that made me laugh out loud. It was a Wednesday evening around 5:30pm. She was sitting on his couch and getting hungry. She said, “What do you want to get to eat tonight?” He said, “Tonight’s my men’s group night. I mentioned it earlier. I’ll be eating at the restaurant. I need to leave in a few minutes.” “Oh”, She said. “I forgot. Ummm…so I guess that means you’re kicking me out?” “That’s one way to look at it, I guess.”, he replied. Then she smiled and said, “I gotta tell you. I think it’s so HOT you’re kicking … Continue reading →

How Your Wife Loses Attraction and Respect For You

It’s midnight. It’s raining. You stopped by the grocery store to get stuff you really need and you’re in a hurry to get home. Just as you throw the last bag in the car you turn to look at the empty shopping cart. What do you do next? Nobody’s watching. Nobody will know. You can shove it into the space next to you and take off or you can beach it on a nearby island. Surely there’s some 14-year-old whose job it is to come find your cart in the morning. Or…do you bite the bullet and run it (or ride it preferably) down to the nearest “Cart Corral” area … Continue reading →