How To Create a More Sexual Marriage

“When you get to the end zone, act like you’ve been there before” ~ Tom Landry, Vince Lombardi or Bear Bryant

I’ve always loved that quote.

It was in response to the emerging tradition of “End Zone Celebrations” in the U.S. National Football League in the late 1960’s.

The coaches disliked the childish practice and wanted the players to have a mature, professional and ABUNDANT mindset about getting into the end zone.

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I don’t want to argue that topic here. I want to make a bigger point about your sex life.

And I think you know where I’m going with this metaphor.

On the football field those coaches wanted their players to have more self-respect, confidence and emotional mastery without acting like scoring was a big surprise.

They wanted their players to embody the belief and attitude that there is PLENTY MORE where that came from and they know just how it’s accomplished.

With this belief they could be more poised, more relaxed and more focused on the PROCESS of creating more touchdowns.

What’s this have to do with your sexual satisfaction?

I’ll tell you more in this video.

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Sexually Satisfied Men Share These Three Basic Traits

1. High level of self-respect and keen awareness of their masculine value.

2. Unshakable confidence based not in what they know or do, but in who they ARE.

3. Emotional mastery of their sexual nature and sexual desires.

I consider these BASELINE traits because they all require a solid core of inner security and maturity.

You shouldn’t work on ANYTHING ELSE until you’ve acquired a strong core of mature self-respect, secure confidence and mastery of your sexual nature.

When a man is insecure and immature (believe me, I know) those traits are impossible to acquire.

Why?

1. Because his “self-respect” comes across as entitlement and indignation.

2. His confidence comes across as arrogant and controlling.

3. And his unbridled sexual nature causes scary and unpredictable emotional spikes in the form of shame, anger and outbursts.

Our coaching programs and retreats are designed to focus specifically on permanently eliminating those problems. We challenge your stories, your “yeah buts” and all of the rationalizations we make for not being stronger men.

For most of us that requires a SHOCK to our masculine heart so we can change our perspective and start being the self-respecting, confident and sexy man we know we can be.

Advanced Traits in Sexually Satisfied Men

I want you to watch the fun video below.

The male actor is displaying some ADVANCED traits which are possible only after the basic traits are acquired.

In this video he shows:

1. Absolute outcome independence

2. Fearlessness in the face of judgment or rejection

3. Unapologetic sexuality without urgency

4. A clear passion for his personal mission

5. Ability to create sexual tension and polarity

See if you can pick these out when you watch it.

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Where are you right now?

I consider this whole journey a mountain with no top.

Could I easily pull off what the guy in the video did?

Hell no!

I don’t have a private plane and I don’t have the calm courage and cojones to invite two ladies I just met to make love over a weekend getaway. (my girlfriend would object as well)

But…it’s a MINDSET and I’m closer to that than I’ve ever been and I’ve got about 30 yrs. of more climbing to do!

That’s what I want for you. I just want you to START THE CLIMB NOW.

I started around my 50th birthday…maybe you’ll have a faster start than I did!

How to Know Where You Stand?

I’ve created a 12-Point Personal Development Scorecard that can help you answer this question.

This scorecard helps you SCORE YOURSELF on the journey from Good Guy to Great Man in 12 key areas including:

Sex
Productivity
Values
Emotions
Spirituality
Temperament
Health/Fitness
Money
Work
Mission
Women
Social Life

We will give you this scorecard and a free consultation to discuss it, all you have to do is apply for a consultation here. No strings. No sales pitches. No timeshare presentation.

We’re here to help you get climbing.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

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In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

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Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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