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My Wife Says “You need to work on yourself”

From 1999 to 2005 I owned and operated a Bed & Breakfast (and Horse Hotel) in the mountains of northern Colorado. Many of my guests were from a large Buddhist retreat center about a mile down the road. These were people seriously into “personal growth work” and many were repeat guests. They learned how to meditate, how to be mindful, how to be kind to themselves, how to witness their own thoughts and how to end their suffering by detaching from their desires…and lots of other cool stuff. In fact, if you read much of the stuff I write about that cool stuff may sound oddly similar. Most personal development … Continue reading →

My Wife Loves The Dog More Than Me – Why?

Have you ever uttered these words under your breath? “Look at her just kissing, rubbing and loving on that dog. He’s getting more of her happy, affectionate attention than I’ve gotten in two months. “ Maybe not those exact words, but I think you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve ever been in that cold, dark, barren “friend zone” with your wife you know what I mean. It’s that constant feeling of rejection and emptiness…just hoping for one little show of attention or affection. And when you see her happily give it to anyone or anything but you the downward spiral of anger and resentment starts. Damn dog. What’s … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Not a Strong Man

Don’t be afraid. This is actually going to help you…a lot. Remember, I write these articles and make my videos for a slightly younger version of me. The fact that you may relate to these topics is pure coincidence. I originally wrote this article as an email and the title was “When Did YOU Hand Over the James Bond Lipstick Tube of Whoop-Ass to Your Wife?” So when I suggest you may have handed over a secret, James Bond 007 lipstick tube of whoop-ass to your wife or girlfriend – I’m talking from experience. Even though the men I work with are rock stars in the domain of their chosen … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Wants to Leave Me, What Should I Do?

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The top four questions men ask upon learning their wife wants to leave are: What did I do to deserve this? Why didn’t she tell me she was unhappy? How could she think breaking up the family is a good idea? Why won’t she at least give me a chance to change? My first answer is always: It’s Not All About You, Brother It’s perfectly normal for you to think her decision to separate or divorce is all about you. After all, if you believe it’s all your fault then you’ve got a chance to fix it! This is the most frustrating part because you begin to learn it isn’t … Continue reading →

My Wife Says She Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Do I Do?

Death by female. For most of the men in my community, that’s the one shared pain. And that’s what I usually say when people ask, “What the hell is it you do again?” I tell them there comes a time in the life of many (MANY!) good men when their world comes crashing down. And I help them transform themselves and their relationships when it happens. When you consider women initiate nearly 70% of all divorces, which means there are scads of men who are caught like a deer in the headlights. As you may know, I teach men that this process normally starts for her about 2 years before he … Continue reading →

10 Signs Your Marriage is in Big Trouble

I’m usually skeptical of “lists” that promise to give you the secret to anything. They lack depth and explanation and aren’t immediately useful – just “click bait” to make you open the damn article. Not so with the list in this video. In fact, there’s about 50 MINUTES of clear explanation with this list. Two weeks ago I promised to share an interview with a “rock star couples coach”. I’m here to deliver. Bruce Muzik has been helping couples create a more connected, secure, happy and intimate life together for many years. He’s accumulated a wealth of insight and wisdom and I love his depth and the confidence with which … Continue reading →

The Kind Of Man Who Can Save His Marriage From Divorce

I was at a men’s seminar a few years ago with Alex Allman and Sean Stephenson. These are two very confident masculine men. Alex looks like a typical 6 foot, handsome, ladies man. Sean is about 3 feet tall and is confined to a wheel chair with brittle bone disease he’s had since birth. There was a guy in the audience who was getting frustrated and asked the question that most of us have thought about but never asked. “Why is it so hard to connect with a woman and feel appreciated and get the affection and passion we want in a relationship?” Sean rolled his wheel chair across the … Continue reading →

How to Create an Intimate Connection with Your Wife – by Dan Dore

I want to talk to you about something that’s very close to my heart. It’s something that has affected every area of my life in a positive way. In particular it has benefited my relationship with my wife and 3 kids enormously. It brought me back from a place of fear and insecurity and reminded me who I really was. I wanted to make this article for those of you in a relationship that is struggling. Where you feel like you’re constantly worried and walking on eggshells. When we find ourselves in the midst of a crisis, we often try anything and everything to make things better, to get back … Continue reading →

How to Avoid Certain Divorce and End the Criticism

There’s this guy named John Gottman who does a ton of research on marriage. He’s kind of a big deal because of all the detailed analyses he’s done on what makes relationships last and marriages survive…or crash and burn. In my next 4 videos, I’m putting his research into easy-to-understand language and easy to implement actions to stop the madness! He came up with the term “The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse”. These are the FOUR BEHAVIORS that can predict divorce with about 90% accuracy. In other words, if these things show up consistently in your relationship, you can bet things won’t be going your way in the future. The … Continue reading →

Why Your Wife is Not Interested in Sex and Affection

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There’s a woo-woo Buddhist rule (The Second Noble Truth as they call it) that says: All Suffering is the Result of Desire for Pleasure, Material Goods, and Immortality. What the hell does that mean? And what are you supposed to do with this information? I’ll break it down for you in plain language any guy can understand. At the end of the day our suffering is all about desiring something from a place of scarcity and emptiness VS. desiring something from a place of abundance and fullness. Still too woo-woo maybe. Another way to say exactly what I mean is: Once you become a man who feels okay about himself, … Continue reading →