For Men How To Find Your Life Purpose

Should you change job? Change career? Find a mission? Follow your “passion”? Maybe you’re wondering whether to stay in your marriage or leave. This article explains how to find your life purpose by finding the right focus.

Here’s what I know for sure.

If you believe for one second that “changing” something outside of you is going to change your general sense of happiness, satisfaction or well-being then you’re wasting a crap load of time.

Stop thinking that way. Stop thinking that if you “could only” do or have something new that your insides will magically change.

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Your “insides” (happiness, satisfaction and well-being) are NOT driven by what you do or what you have.

There’s something much more important and something MUCH more in your control than you think.

The dirty little secret held by men who are generally happy, secure, content and confident is this.


Being “good at livin’ ” is a state of BEING…not doing and not having.

Being “good at livin’ ” is a direct result of how we choose to be and THINK…right now.

This means we’re not dreading our past mistakes and we’re not fearing our future predicaments.

A Man’s Purpose In Life Finds Him, Not The Other Way Around

The best way to “find your life purpose” is to let it find YOU when you are living in the right now…consistently…every single day. When you learn to do this, passion finds YOU. Purpose finds YOU.

This means you must get better at living in the NOW. Today. In the next hours between now and bedtime. (you get a blank slate in the morning!)

I know how the uncertainty of a woman’s love can catapult you into a storm of future fears.

I know how the uncertainty of the economy and a pandemic can make you feel powerless and stuck.


  • Seems to make men shift into neutral and idle their engine
  • Makes us tentative, indecisive and wishy-washy
  • Can make us feel so weak that we can’t stand ourselves

In this really short video, I want to give you some encouragement about your perceived uncertainties.

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How to Know Your Purpose as a Man

When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way. ~ Wayne Dyer

Dancing is another way of saying “Livin’ “.

Even in a difficult marriage, job market or global pandemic, a man needs to focus on enjoying each step.

His MISSION is simply to get better at dancing.

How To Start Livin’

I recently read Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey. In his Texas drawl, he writes about what “Livin’ ” (no G at the end!) means to him.

It helped clarify some things for me.

Livin’ is about:

  • What you say YES to with unabashed enthusiasm
  • What you say NO to without one damn apology
  • How you choose to treat others and the treatment you choose to accept from others
  • Having a certain kind of HOPE that tells you in no uncertain terms that everything is okay and WILL BE OKAY
  • Knowing you are okay at this moment and all things that haven’t happened yet will serve you in some special way
  • A specific faith that things will work out in a way that will make sense…even if it isn’t exactly your preference

The Goodguys2Greatmen community was created for ONE REASON.

That is to give men a safe place to discover HOW TO LIVE BETTER.

We teach you the “dance steps” required for being a self-reliant, self-confident, self-respecting and self-approving MAN.

We have the TRIBE of the most initiated, intelligent and passionate men on the planet.

We’re here for you when you’re ready to find your tribe and get a lot better at “Livin’ ” on a daily basis…not matter what chaos or drama is swirling around you.

A frantic man who’s trying to change everything around him won’t find happiness. A man’s purpose in life is a target. He is the arrow. The target draws the arrow when he gets good at “livin'”. Relax & trust the process.

Find Your Tribe

Ask for a deep-dive personal consultation to FEEL the power of our coaching process. You will wonder why you’ve been talking to therapists. (We hear that all the time)

Check out our incredibly intense and informative online course How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb and incredible 24-7 online support group.

Join the amazing tribe of the GG2GM Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable. A twice-monthly live coaching group and powerful, 24-7 online support team of men. This is a very affordable and flexible way to get on the field and start playing now.

If none of these options feels right to you then find something else. But, brother, you must find your tribe.

You’ll never be stronger than when you have strong men standing with you.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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