For Men How To Find Your Life Purpose

Should you change job? Change career? Find a mission? Follow your “passion”? Maybe you’re wondering whether to stay in your marriage or leave. This article explains how to find your life purpose by finding the right focus.

Here’s what I know for sure.

If you believe for one second that “changing” something outside of you is going to change your general sense of happiness, satisfaction or well-being then you’re wasting a crap load of time.

Stop thinking that way. Stop thinking that if you “could only” do or have something new that your insides will magically change.

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Your “insides” (happiness, satisfaction and well-being) are NOT driven by what you do or what you have.

There’s something much more important and something MUCH more in your control than you think.

The dirty little secret held by men who are generally happy, secure, content and confident is this.


Being “good at livin’ ” is a state of BEING…not doing and not having.

Being “good at livin’ ” is a direct result of how we choose to be and THINK…right now.

This means we’re not dreading our past mistakes and we’re not fearing our future predicaments.

A Man’s Purpose In Life Finds Him, Not The Other Way Around

The best way to “find your life purpose” is to let it find YOU when you are living in the right now…consistently…every single day. When you learn to do this, passion finds YOU. Purpose finds YOU.

This means you must get better at living in the NOW. Today. In the next hours between now and bedtime. (you get a blank slate in the morning!)

I know how the uncertainty of a woman’s love can catapult you into a storm of future fears.

I know how the uncertainty of the economy and a pandemic can make you feel powerless and stuck.


  • Seems to make men shift into neutral and idle their engine
  • Makes us tentative, indecisive and wishy-washy
  • Can make us feel so weak that we can’t stand ourselves

In this really short video, I want to give you some encouragement about your perceived uncertainties.

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How to Know Your Purpose as a Man

When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way. ~ Wayne Dyer

Dancing is another way of saying “Livin’ “.

Even in a difficult marriage, job market or global pandemic, a man needs to focus on enjoying each step.

His MISSION is simply to get better at dancing.

How To Start Livin’

I recently read Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey. In his Texas drawl, he writes about what “Livin’ ” (no G at the end!) means to him.

It helped clarify some things for me.

Livin’ is about:

  • What you say YES to with unabashed enthusiasm
  • What you say NO to without one damn apology
  • How you choose to treat others and the treatment you choose to accept from others
  • Having a certain kind of HOPE that tells you in no uncertain terms that everything is okay and WILL BE OKAY
  • Knowing you are okay at this moment and all things that haven’t happened yet will serve you in some special way
  • A specific faith that things will work out in a way that will make sense…even if it isn’t exactly your preference

The Goodguys2Greatmen community was created for ONE REASON.

That is to give men a safe place to discover HOW TO LIVE BETTER.

We teach you the “dance steps” required for being a self-reliant, self-confident, self-respecting and self-approving MAN.

We have the TRIBE of the most initiated, intelligent and passionate men on the planet.

We’re here for you when you’re ready to find your tribe and get a lot better at “Livin’ ” on a daily basis…not matter what chaos or drama is swirling around you.

A frantic man who’s trying to change everything around him won’t find happiness. A man’s purpose in life is a target. He is the arrow. The target draws the arrow when he gets good at “livin'”. Relax & trust the process.

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Ask for a deep-dive personal consultation to FEEL the power of our coaching process. You will wonder why you’ve been talking to therapists. (We hear that all the time)

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Join the amazing tribe of the GG2GM Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable. A twice-monthly live coaching group and powerful, 24-7 online support team of men. This is a very affordable and flexible way to get on the field and start playing now.

If none of these options feels right to you then find something else. But, brother, you must find your tribe.

You’ll never be stronger than when you have strong men standing with you.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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