Steve Horsmon | Good Guys 2 Great Men

My Wife Says She Wants to Leave Me, What Should I Do?

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The top four questions men ask upon learning their wife wants to leave are: What did I do to deserve this? Why didn’t she tell me she was unhappy? How could she think breaking up the family is a good idea? Why won’t she at least give me a chance to change? My first answer is always: It’s Not All About You, Brother It’s perfectly normal for you to think her decision to separate or divorce is all about you. After all, if you believe it’s all your fault then you’ve got a chance to fix it! This is the most frustrating part because you begin to learn it isn’t … Continue reading →

Why is My Wife so Cold and Distant?

I’ll just say it and get it over with. Women can be a lot like horses. It sounds innocent enough but I’ve gotten a lot of crap over comparing women to animals. It’s a metaphor, for Pete’s sake. (actually it’s a simile for you grammar freaks) A woman once told me, “You guys are like dogs. A kind word, a good meal and rub on the belly every now and then and you’re good to go. Simple bastards!” Hell yes, sister! Now you’ve got it. Most of us can go without food or water for week with just one “You’re such a good boy!” show of appreciation. So, I don’t … Continue reading →

How to Re-attract Your Wife (the Truth Behind the Answers You’re Looking for)

I won’t beat around the bush. I haven’t been completely honest with you. I’ll get right to it. Here are some of the little white lies I’ve been telling you: I can tell you how to save your marriage I can teach you how to get more sex – as much as you want I can help you make your wife happy I can show you how to make your woman want you again Those words are exactly what I was Googling years ago when I was in your shoes. It’s called “Search Engine Optimization”. It’s exactly how my early coaches and mentors got me to click on their information. … Continue reading →

Is Your Marriage Stuck in Limbo Land?

We run regular live coaching sessions with guys like you to just gather the men, answer questions and give each other some brotherly support. I ask that guys send questions in advance so Dan Dore and I can have some topics ready to address. The big topic last week was about “Limbo Land”. It’s that time in a man’s marriage where he feels shaky, nervous and totally uncertain about where the relationship is going or if it will even survive. He feels in “limbo”…permanently. The question was, “Can you give more insight into what limbo land is, why it happens and what I can do about it?” I decided to … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Controlling, What Do I Do Now?

Sometimes we get our best ideas at the most awkward times…like on the toilet. There I was, reading an old issue of Rolling Stones magazine and an interview with the late Glenn Frey of the band The Eagles. My favorite band of all time, by the way. Anyway, I read a quote he made during an interview and it gave me a flash of insight – an idea – and there was no pen in sight. The interviewer commented how amazing it was that the band could so closely reproduce in live concert the perfect vocal harmonies and instrumentation they achieved on their records. Glenn said, “Yeah, with so many … Continue reading →

How Overreacting Reduces the Affection in Your Marriage

I say this about 20 times a week. STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER! I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict. But what does it mean? It means to stop driving into the drama created by others. It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong. And when things are going great, don’t get caught up in believing they will always be great. Life is an experience of ups and downs…highs and lows. But if you don’t know where YOUR LANE is, you’ll drive all over the freaking road feeling out of control…a victim of circumstances. If … Continue reading →

Being More Confident and Masculine in Your Marriage

Some days I can feel like a big fat wuss. You? You know those days of camping out too long on the couch…putting off a list of things you want to do but just can’t find the energy. Sometimes our mojo (self-worth and self-confidence) just takes a major dive and leaves us feeling weak and insignificant. Most men can remember a time in their life when they felt pretty cocksure about themselves. Maybe it was in school, sports, games, technology…whatever. There’s usually a time in our life we can remember when we thought we were doing okay and actually had a little badassery going on. Then the time comes in … Continue reading →

Wife Wants a Divorce? How to Stop the Crushing Fear and Loneliness

This week I decided to fly right toward Hurricane Florence and you’ll never guess what happened. I almost didn’t leave Colorado. The forecasts were dim. Negative Nellie’s told me to cancel my trip. “You might get stuck on the east coast for days!”, they said. So what did I do? I drove 2 hours to Denver International Airport and jumped on a plane flying straight for Hurricane Florence. Well, actually, it was to Baltimore…but close enough. I decided to assume the best and accept the worst. But the the worst never happened. It usually never does. Read that again. The worst things we imagine almost never come true. And as … Continue reading →

How To Turn Your Unhappy Marriage Into a Happy One

Some guys consistently create their own pain and they don’t even know it. How’s that, you say? I mean they manufacture drama, conflict and tension by trying to protect their ego’s need to “be right”. It’s that insecure, indignant part of us who needs show other people the error of their ways. I came so close to doing this yesterday I almost jumped off the emotional cliff by pummeling a body shop with my anger and frustration. My 2002 truck was in for hail damage and a general face-lift for THIRTY DAYS when they had promised to be done in 14 days – tops. My issue is less about the … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →