How To Create The Marriage You Really Want This Year

Let me give you something else that could be immensely more useful to you as you stare yet another new year in the face.

Someone recently told me they seek me out for my “aged wisdom”.

They hoped I could give them some guidance to help them avoid some of the potholes of life in which I’ve already stepped.

I’ve decided to not take the word “aged” personally and I will give you my best single piece of wisdom.

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Like most other wisdom, this is not original. It’s repackaged and regurgitated in my own special way.

Maybe my way of saying it will resonate with you.

This could possibly make 2021 your best year ever.

My best year ever was 2012. That was until 2013 came along…and so on and so on after that.

Here is what I’ve learned and what you should know.

Don’t settle for anything less than the “magic” in life.

What the hell does that mean?

If you’re on this email list you’re probably not too motivated by “get rich quick” schemes or accumulating more “things” to make you happy.

You’re here because you are already a deep thinking, intensely feeling, emotionally intelligent and compassionate man.

You might cry in a split second watching a powerful movie scene.

You see magic and wonder in laughing kids and puppies.

And while you bury yourself in the work of keeping busy to pay the bills and feed your lifestyle…you quietly yearn for more “magic”.

Guys like us secretly crave the magic of a personal and spiritual connection with others…especially our romantic partners.

Guys like us hide behind our outward displays of strength, intelligence and competence when we’re really hungry for the intensity of emotional vulnerability.

Guys like us quietly keep marching to society’s prescription for a good life while we resent ourselves for not taking more bold, passionate risks to create more meaning in our life.

THAT is the kind of “magic” most of us want more of.

The video below introduces my view of the “Happily Divorced Man” and why I think this mindset could actually save your marriage and drastically improve your personal happiness.

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What’s Going to Change in 2021?

One of the clearest articles I’ve ever written described “50 Ways to Be More Like a Happily Divorced Man“. (HDM)

The whole point of the article is that the HDM is a better man, partner and father because he’s lost all the bad habits of an “unhappily married man”.

In this article I outline 50 traits of an HDM that will bring all kinds of magic back into your life in 2021. For example:

They are no longer angry men.

They are not “upset” with women.

They are confident in their own value and don’t need validation from others.

They have amazing, fulfilling conversations with other men and women.

They are calm and deliberate in how they relate to women – and the world.

They really, really like who they are being as a man.

They know they are valuable men of integrity and character. They are a “prize”.

They are massively secure.

….there are 42 more in the article.

I know. It sounds like magic, doesn’t it?

The key to not settling for anything but magic in your life is to start owning and creating your own magic right now.

What magic do you want to create?

Why do you want that?

How will you make it a 2021 focus – with commitment and passion driving you every day?

“Logic only gives man what he needs…magic gives him what he needs.” ~ Tom Robbins

Most of us guys try to use tools, tactics, logic and reasoning to get what we want.

We focus on DOING STUFF to create the changes we want.

But DOING STUFF is totally ineffective when you’re not BEING who you need to be.

It’s like doing all the right steps to train a horse while you’re frustrated and screaming at it.

This is how many of us go through life trying to create what we want.

We follow conventional wisdom and use our SKILL while we remain in the skin of man who has no chance of being effective with those skills.

A blinding light of clarity shines on for the man who learns the difference between manipulating outcomes and staying in a frame that naturally creates good outcomes. And he feels instantly liberated from struggle. ~ me

We’ve created many options for men to join the Goodguys2Greatmen community and our movement to build strong, secure, confident men who get to live the life they want.

If you want to get serious in 2021 about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to change what’s happening in your life now. This will make you feel calmer…cooler…and more relaxed and measured every day over the next few weeks.

We can give you details about the options you have for going deeper in 2021 to transform yourself and current reality.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

“Damn, this felt better than a year of counseling! I can’t believe someone really listened to me and understands exactly who I am and where I am!”

How do you set up this call?


Fill in the application for your free consultation call here. We want to know some things about you first and will schedule the call right away. You will be matched up with either to me or one of my certified coaches around the world.

You’re not alone brother. I promise.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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