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Starting April 1, 2020: FREE 14-Day (every day!) Live Support Zoom Calls

It’s a very simple concept. Men need other men for support, guidance, encouragement and brotherly love. Period. And especially when sh*t hits the fan…say… like a global pandemic, we need each other more than ever. That’s why we have set up a 14-day – EVERY DAY – men’s support Zoom call for connection, conversation, sharing and laughing. We have 8 different coaches around the world who are hosting these fourteen 90-minute sessions. The coaches will introduce a topic to kick things off, but we want YOU to be a part of the conversation. Bring your concerns, questions and “Sheltering in Place Best Practices” to the brotherhood. This is open to … Continue reading →

Wife Always Has an Excuse Not to Have Sex

After over 340,000 views and over 1300 comments, this video of mine has apparently confused a few men. I want to clear up a few things and answer one of the most common comments. “How am I supposed to get a woman if I don’t CHASE them?!” I’ll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and sex with women…I’m asking you to stop the needy pursuit of their acceptance and approval. That should be enough to make my point clear. But let me try for “crystal clear”. I am in 100% support of healthy, happy and confident men pursuing their desire for healthy, happy, loving, … Continue reading →

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

The topic for today’s article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn’t she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change this? Our first response is always to look into how you THINK about your current situation. Most of the time you’re so focused on what she says or what you think she’s thinking that you have no idea what’s really … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Controlling, What Do I Do Now?

Sometimes we get our best ideas at the most awkward times…like on the toilet. There I was, reading an old issue of Rolling Stones magazine and an interview with the late Glenn Frey of the band The Eagles. My favorite band of all time, by the way. Anyway, I read a quote he made during an interview and it gave me a flash of insight – an idea – and there was no pen in sight. The interviewer commented how amazing it was that the band could so closely reproduce in live concert the perfect vocal harmonies and instrumentation they achieved on their records. Glenn said, “Yeah, with so many … Continue reading →

How Overreacting Reduces the Affection in Your Marriage

I say this about 20 times a week. STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER! I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict. But what does it mean? It means to stop driving into the drama created by others. It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong. And when things are going great, don’t get caught up in believing they will always be great. Life is an experience of ups and downs…highs and lows. But if you don’t know where YOUR LANE is, you’ll drive all over the freaking road feeling out of control…a victim of circumstances. If … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →

Turn Your Angry Wife Into a Purring Pussycat

Since I don’t have kids, I don’t normally give much parenting advice. Although the “man skills” I teach are totally transferable to parenting nothing beats a great true story to illustrate a point. My buddy, Jeff, told me a story today about his unruly 15-year-old who went ballistic when Jeff took his phone away. I don’t just mean ballistic. I mean all out warfare. What do you do when someone with a 15-year-old mindset and maturity does something so outrageous that you feel like throwing him through a wall? I found out the answer today when Jeff shared this great story. I love how he handled it. Jeff Allen is … Continue reading →

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

calm mountain lion is like a confident man

The mountain lion speaks to me because he’s the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular…he just IS. This is what makes him so regal – so magnetic – so attractive. It’s the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He’s focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time. He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama. They say “the lion doesn’t turn around when the small dog barks”. And a Nigerian proverb says “The roaring lion kills no prey.” He doesn’t over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only … Continue reading →

How to Initiate Sex and Not Get Rejected

This article may piss off a few people…but I don’t care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I’ve had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don’t NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw. Too simple you say? I think not. This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and … Continue reading →

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am. It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.” What’s my point here? Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody. I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun? If you don’t know something then saying NO … Continue reading →