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Starting April 1, 2020: FREE 14-Day (every day!) Live Support Zoom Calls

It’s a very simple concept. Men need other men for support, guidance, encouragement and brotherly love. Period. And especially when sh*t hits the fan…say… like a global pandemic, we need each other more than ever. That’s why we have set up a 14-day – EVERY DAY – men’s support Zoom call for connection, conversation, sharing and laughing. We have 8 different coaches around the world who are hosting these fourteen 90-minute sessions. The coaches will introduce a topic to kick things off, but we want YOU to be a part of the conversation. Bring your concerns, questions and “Sheltering in Place Best Practices” to the brotherhood. This is open to … Continue reading →

My Wife is a Feminist and Thinks Masculinity is Toxic

Toxic masculinity…toxic masculinity…toxic masculinity! Did you get that queasy knot in your stomach yet? Is the hair on the back of you neck tingling just a bit? Most good men have a physical reaction to the phrase…at least a wince of discomfort when they hear it. And then what do they do? Some of them waste another few hours of their day lurking around the internet getting themselves all spun up with anger and defensiveness. They will engage in emotionally charged arguments with other men and women trying say something brilliant or change someone’s mind. The problem with this approach is that it’s entirely INEFFECTIVE. Most of the discourse on … Continue reading →

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

The topic for today’s article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn’t she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change this? Our first response is always to look into how you THINK about your current situation. Most of the time you’re so focused on what she says or what you think she’s thinking that you have no idea what’s really … Continue reading →

How Overreacting Reduces the Affection in Your Marriage

I say this about 20 times a week. STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER! I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict. But what does it mean? It means to stop driving into the drama created by others. It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong. And when things are going great, don’t get caught up in believing they will always be great. Life is an experience of ups and downs…highs and lows. But if you don’t know where YOUR LANE is, you’ll drive all over the freaking road feeling out of control…a victim of circumstances. If … Continue reading →

Being More Confident and Masculine in Your Marriage

Some days I can feel like a big fat wuss. You? You know those days of camping out too long on the couch…putting off a list of things you want to do but just can’t find the energy. Sometimes our mojo (self-worth and self-confidence) just takes a major dive and leaves us feeling weak and insignificant. Most men can remember a time in their life when they felt pretty cocksure about themselves. Maybe it was in school, sports, games, technology…whatever. There’s usually a time in our life we can remember when we thought we were doing okay and actually had a little badassery going on. Then the time comes in … Continue reading →

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am. It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.” What’s my point here? Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody. I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun? If you don’t know something then saying NO … Continue reading →

How Can I Save My Marriage? and Why it’s the Wrong Question to Ask

There’s a “chicken and the egg” situation I want to address right here…right now. And this is crucial to HOW YOU THINK about getting what you want in life and relationships. How you think about everything is the only control you have and all you will ever need. Why? Because the moment you change the way you think about the things happening in your life…those very things will start changing in front of your eyes. I’m in the business of helping men CHANGE THEIR PERSPECTIVE about what it means to be a man. I teach them HOW TO THINK differently. What causes us to become needy, dependent and afraid in … Continue reading →

Are You Making This Common Relationship Mistake?

There’s something I want to share with you in this article… I’m seeing a lot of men falling into a huge trap. This can be a trap if you’re married, in an exclusive relationship…or even if you’re single. Having a girlfriend can be a HEALTHY decision or it can be a messy, emotional cry for help. You can make her the delicious icing on your cake. Or you can make her the flour in your cake – the very source of strength, stability and confidence in your life. Guess which one I want for you. Here are the 3 signs you know you’re not ready for a girlfriend yet. … Continue reading →

Re-attracting Your Wife 101 – Stop Being so Defensive

being defensive kills her attraction to you

This article is a continuation of my 4-part series based on John Gottman’s research on what makes relationships last and marriages survive and thrive. I wanted to put his research into easy-to-understand language and easy to implement actions for you (and me). He named them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. These are the FOUR BEHAVIORS that can predict divorce with about 90% accuracy. In other words, if these things show up consistently in your relationship, you can bet things won’t be going your way in the future. The four behaviors are: Criticism Defensiveness Stonewalling Contempt In each of these articles, I will break down each behavior this way: a. What … Continue reading →

How to Reignite the Attraction When Your Wife Says its Gone

The most frequent question I get from clients trying to resuscitate intimacy in their relationship is: “When is She Going to Want Sex With Me Again?!” And my answer is always the same. “I don’t know…and neither does she.” The next question is, “Well, I know she doesn’t want sex right now, but I don’t know if she even WANTS to want sex with me. How can I tell if she even WANTS to want to be intimate again?” Again. “I don’t know…and neither does she.” She may have told you, “I don’t know why I don’t want to have sex. I don’t know when I’ll ever want it. And … Continue reading →