Wife Always Has an Excuse Not to Have Sex

After over 340,000 views and over 1300 comments, this video of mine has apparently confused a few men.

I want to clear up a few things and answer one of the most common comments.

“How am I supposed to get a woman if I don’t CHASE them?!”

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I’ll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and sex with women…I’m asking you to stop the needy pursuit of their acceptance and approval.

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That should be enough to make my point clear. But let me try for “crystal clear”.

I am in 100% support of healthy, happy and confident men pursuing their desire for healthy, happy, loving, connected, respectful, affectionate and passionate relationships with women.

I always have been. Always will.

The video is meant to explain the OPPOSITE of that.

The opposite of healthy, happy and confident is insecure, miserable and needy.

The opposite of pursuing healthy relationships with women is the pursuit of someone to anesthetize your childhood wounds and shore up your insecure sense of self.

And just in case this isn’t clear enough, a man who pursues romance and sex from that place may as well give up before he starts.

I’m going to give you a coaching homework assignment. Somewhere around the 6th session in my private Masculine Confidence program I assign this book.

Beyond Success and Failure: Ways to Self-Reliance and Maturity

I’m serious. I expect you to read it. It might change your life like it did mine.

Warning: It’s a heavy read. It repeats points many times so you don’t forget. It was written in 1966 and has funny language sometimes. It’s blunt and unapologetic about the path from child to adult…from boy to man.

Stay with it and don’t miss the last chapter.

The last chapter explains why self-reliance is so critical in your pursuit of healthy relationships. It explains why pursuing relationships from an insecure mindset is like poison.

One of the most critical breakthroughs a man can make is realizing this one truth.

He cannot honestly and generously give his love to someone else until he learns to honestly and generously love himself.

Self-reliance isn’t arrogant, controlling, selfish or isolating. It’s the foundation of self-respect and healthy, positive masculinity. It’s the core of healthy, passionate relationships.

Pursuing relationships with women from a place of insecurity and neediness will always turn out badly.

Maybe that should have been the title of that video!

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore has been a professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are lacking confidence, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life and relationships. Dan has 10 years experience coaching men to improve their self-confidence issues and improve their ability to create more emotional connection, more trust, more respect, and to learn how to lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. If you're tired of dealing with rejection and criticism, Dan will help you challenge the current status, stand up for what you want to change and finally be happy in yourself and your ability to create the kind of connection and passionate life that you really want.
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