After living through this myself and then coaching thousands of men through this exact situation, I have a well-defined answer to the statement “I want my wife to give me more sex”.
Has your sex life been on the decline making you feel anxious, frustrated and questioning whether it’s all worth it?
I like to get real about what really goes on with us guys when it comes to managing our sex drive and our relationships.
We get dozens of applications for consultations each month.
Guess what the #1 answer is to the question: “What do you most want in the next 6 months?”
It usually sounds a bit like this.
“I want to reconnect with my wife and feel more trust, respect and affection. I want her to look at me like she used to. Aaaaand I really want a lot more sex with her.”
I said exactly the same thing when I was in those shoes. Who doesn’t want more of everything?
Our pulsing libido’s misguided answer to a failing relationship is “give me MORE sex”
We make a big mistake when we listen to our libido’s advice. In this video, I go into more depth about sexual energy and how happy, healthy and sexually satisfied men THINK about it.
The Big Mistake Most Of Us Make With Our Throbbing Libido
Don’t get me wrong here.
I am not telling you that you must subjugate your sexual desire.
And I’m not telling you that you need to somehow get used to less sex or even a “sexless marriage”.
The #1 cause of most married guys’ waning sex life is their incessant, unregulated and immature response to their biological urge to have sex.
The more desperate and needy we become around our sexual desire the more we sabotage the process of creating a real, healthy sexual connection.
Sure, there are many other factors that can come into play.
Health issues, pain, menopause, emotional blocks and psychological trauma are a few.
But with most otherwise healthy couples, the health of the sexual relationship is greatly affected by the man’s healthy relationship with his sexuality.
Want it. But don’t need it.
Pursue sexual connection. Don’t coerce or manipulate it.
Enjoy feeling turned on without always making it lead to intercourse.
Blue balls (epididymal hypertension) are a thing, but it’s related to extended periods of arousal and most common in adolescent men. Mature men who complain of the pain of blue balls have a thinking problem, not a biological problem.
Converting “Give Me More Sex” Into Attraction
You could Google “Sexual Transmutation” and choke yourself on the volume of information available.
Let me make it clear, simple and actionable to save you some time.
Your nuclear reactor of sexual energy is a limitless source of productive, inventive and creative power.
So, use it accordingly.
Use it consciously to pursue a new job, to learn a new skill, to write that book you’re thinking about.
Use your sexual energy to propel you into a passion you’ve always wanted to pursue.
Use it to keep in shape. Use it to plan amazing play days with your kids.
Use your drive to overcome your fear of taking risks – and go f*ck those risks!
As soon as you start knowing the things you didn’t know before, you will begin to be more conscious in USING THAT KNOWLEDGE to change your life.
Within just a few weeks, this new knowledge starts lowering your blood pressure. You sleep better. You get your appetite back. You stop getting triggered and over-reacting to everything…especially the triggers of sexual frustration and sexual rejection.
Bottom Line: When you intentionally channel your sexual energy in mindful and mature ways you will begin to live the kind of life that will make you INFINITELY MORE ATTRACTIVE. It’s always THAT guy who has a better sex life, not the guy who insists “she needs to give me more sex”.
Every hour of every single day there are men in my community working on this stuff and more.
The road trip from “good guy” to “great man” is a well-traveled path and there is SO MUCH you need to know.
Let me make something else super clear.
I want you to experience the power of this Goodguys2Greatmen community. It will change your life forever.
If anything in this article (or any of these over 400 articles) resonates with you…you’re in the right place.
You’re smart, strong, caring, sensitive and successful. But guys like you seldom seek the friendship and wisdom of other men. (I know from personal experience)
Too risky? Too weird? Too embarrassed to admit you want help?
That describes all of us, brother. Time to take a risk
Use the power of your morning libido to do something new.
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