Have you ever though to yourself “My Wife is Happy Around Everyone Else But Me” – I recognise this thought too, and the feelings of confusion and frustration that came with it.
I get an email like the one below about twice a week.
Same story. Same question. Different guy.
Hell, I was this guy years ago so I totally get it.
Here we go.
“Steve, I think my story is probably different from most other guys you talk to. My wife and I mostly get along and we’re not talking about divorce. But she is more like a friend and roommate.
She’s totally checked out of the romantic part of our marriage and says she’s just not interested. I don’t believe her because she absolutely lights up with everyone else but me. She’s more playful, affectionate and happy with everyone (even the dog) than she is with me.
She’s also been spending a lot of time with a mutual friend (a married guy) down the street. She says they are “just friends”, but she seems to put time with him ahead of time with me. She says we don’t have much in common anymore and don’t have a connection.
So…while I don’t think divorce is on the horizon, I NEED HELP of some kind. The thing is, I don’t know what is best for me.
Given my unique situation, what do you think would be the best fit for me? Thanks.”
First of all, let’s forget about what option he needs for a minute.
I want to point out how amusing it is that he believes his situation is unique.
While everyone is special in their own way, we’ve found that the men who contact us have many things in common. It’s scary how often the emails virtually REPEAT themselves.
It’s because of this common bond (and common mistakes) that our community and coaching events are so effective.
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He thinks things are mostly okay, except for this intimacy thing
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She feels totally justified in taking her time and energy somewhere else
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