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My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

calm mountain lion is like a confident man

The mountain lion speaks to me because he’s the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular…he just IS. This is what makes him so regal – so magnetic – so attractive. It’s the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He’s focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time. He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama. They say “the lion doesn’t turn around when the small dog barks”. And a Nigerian proverb says “The roaring lion kills no prey.” He doesn’t over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only … Continue reading →

How to Initiate Sex and Not Get Rejected

This article may piss off a few people…but I don’t care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I’ve had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don’t NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw. Too simple you say? I think not. This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With Me, What Can I Do?

There’s this unbelievable vacation spot I’m in love with. It’s a sprawling Spanish style home, 7500 square feet, immaculate, stunning home perched on top of a mountain overlooking a village on the Pacific coast of Mexico. It’s got a gourmet kitchen that comes with a private chef and daily maid service. The food is amazing, the weather is perfect and the people are so friendly. You can walk down the mountain in just minutes for an early morning coffee, horseback ride or to grab a surf board and get another few runs in before lunch time. At night, I like to hang out with friends in the infinity pool and … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Needy, How Can I Be More Confident?

How do you know if you’re being too needy? You know…smothering, joined at the hip, invasive, pestering and insecure. I remember those days well. And how do you know if you’re being too independent? You know…detached, selfish, distant, inattentive, dismissive, self-absorbed and asshole-ish. I remember those days well too. The problem is that it’s EASY for us to fall into either of those modes if we’re not awake and aware. And nothing good happens when that happens. That’s what this email and video are all about. I want to help you become more aware of who you are being so you can better create what you really want. In the … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Respect Me, What Should I do?

About 3 years ago I was sitting in a private room in a brew pub with my local men’s group having our regular “Men, Marriage and Sex” meeting. As the meeting started we were laughing about something stupid someone said and just then the waitress came in to take beer orders. She (jokingly?) said, “What is this? A he-man woman haters club?” We laughed and didn’t even try to give an explanation…and she didn’t seem interested in hearing one either. It seemed she had already made up her mind. You may not be old enough to remember The Little Rascals. They created the first He-Man Woman Hater’s Club after being … Continue reading →

I Hate My Wife, How do I Create a Passionate Marriage Again?

Do you ever let your thoughts of your “future relationship” piss you off in the present moment? Do you ever project negative thoughts on your lady and then get grumpy and mean just thinking about negative stuff? Do you fear things not working out tomorrow so much that you’ve become an agitated asshole today? That’s what this woman I met had decided SHE was doing. Here’s the quick story. “Joanna” told me she had an amazing epiphany one morning. She realized she was waking up nearly every day in a foul mood. She was irritated, bitchy and whiny from the “get go”. And it was all aimed right at her … Continue reading →

Unattractive Neediness – What to Do if Your Wife Calls You Needy

Warning: This article might sting. I wrote it as if I was writing it to a slightly younger version of myself. This comes from my past. If you relate to what I’m about to tell you and it turns out you’re a little needy, I assure you that there is a brighter future ahead. Here are some of the most aggravating things a man can hear from a woman. “You’re so damn needy!” “You smother me!” “Why can’t you get a life?” “I need my space!” ….and my favorite country song title: “How Can I Miss You if You Won’t Leave?!” Being called “needy” is one of the most embarrassing, … Continue reading →

How Your Silence May Be Creating Your Detached Wife

Unhappy wife after argument with husband

I’ve talked a lot lately about anger and how badly it can screw up your relationship. You know by now that a pissy, angry guy is doomed to create a pissy, angry life everywhere he goes. Women aren’t attracted to him. Kids are afraid of him. And dogs don’t trust him. But forget about them for a minute. Think about what pissy anger does to you. I know, it’s not like you WANT to feel pissy and angry. You wouldn’t pick this mood if you thought you actually had a choice, would you? Or do you believe that anger (like shit) just happens? Not quite, brother. If you would rather … Continue reading →

How to BE More Masculine and Create the Relationship You Want

Has this kind of mind boggling conversation ever happened to you? “Hey, I’ve got a question.” “What is it?” “The other day I was driving down that road behind the lake and HUGE mountain lion ran right in front of me! He was beautiful, but scary, because he stopped on the side of the road and looked me right in the eye. Gave me chills. I read that a mountain lion’s top speed is like 40-50 mph. And a horse is like 25-30 mph. It’s amazing we don’t hear more about horse attacks. Anyway, when I was driving I hit a patch of horrible washboards. I don’t know why they … Continue reading →