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This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she’s not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and try to urgently fix what’s going wrong in our relationship. As many of you already know, that reaction just magnifies the problem. In this video Steve and I discuss what you can do when she’s backing away from you to attract her back toward you. … Continue reading →

Turn Your Angry Wife Into a Purring Pussycat

Since I don’t have kids, I don’t normally give much parenting advice. Although the “man skills” I teach are totally transferable to parenting nothing beats a great true story to illustrate a point. My buddy, Jeff, told me a story today about his unruly 15-year-old who went ballistic when Jeff took his phone away. I don’t just mean ballistic. I mean all out warfare. What do you do when someone with a 15-year-old mindset and maturity does something so outrageous that you feel like throwing him through a wall? I found out the answer today when Jeff shared this great story. I love how he handled it. Jeff Allen is … Continue reading →

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

calm mountain lion is like a confident man

The mountain lion speaks to me because he’s the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular…he just IS. This is what makes him so regal – so magnetic – so attractive. It’s the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He’s focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time. He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama. They say “the lion doesn’t turn around when the small dog barks”. And a Nigerian proverb says “The roaring lion kills no prey.” He doesn’t over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only … Continue reading →

How to Initiate Sex and Not Get Rejected

This article may piss off a few people…but I don’t care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I’ve had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don’t NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw. Too simple you say? I think not. This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It’s an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN’S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What’s the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It’s the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants. Let me make this really clear. She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow: Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return … Continue reading →

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am. It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.” What’s my point here? Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody. I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun? If you don’t know something then saying NO … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With Me, What Can I Do?

There’s this unbelievable vacation spot I’m in love with. It’s a sprawling Spanish style home, 7500 square feet, immaculate, stunning home perched on top of a mountain overlooking a village on the Pacific coast of Mexico. It’s got a gourmet kitchen that comes with a private chef and daily maid service. The food is amazing, the weather is perfect and the people are so friendly. You can walk down the mountain in just minutes for an early morning coffee, horseback ride or to grab a surf board and get another few runs in before lunch time. At night, I like to hang out with friends in the infinity pool and … Continue reading →

My Wife Said I’m Needy, How Can I Be More Confident?

How do you know if you’re being too needy? You know…smothering, joined at the hip, invasive, pestering and insecure. I remember those days well. And how do you know if you’re being too independent? You know…detached, selfish, distant, inattentive, dismissive, self-absorbed and asshole-ish. I remember those days well too. The problem is that it’s EASY for us to fall into either of those modes if we’re not awake and aware. And nothing good happens when that happens. That’s what this email and video are all about. I want to help you become more aware of who you are being so you can better create what you really want. In the … Continue reading →

My Wife Just Said She Wants A Divorce, What Now?

Death by Female. That’s the tongue-in-cheek phrase I’ve adopted to describe the type of man who tends to read my newsletters. Somehow, some way, somewhere along the way you’ve been made aware that things aren’t right. She’s not happy. She’s doesn’t talk to you or look at you like before. Her cold, dismissive and often disrespectful attitude toward you feels like a daily dagger in the gut. The new friends, new tattoo, new smoking habit, new social calendar and missing wedding rings are just a few of the clues jacking with your confidence. Then she utters, I think we need time apart. I need space. Maybe we’re not right for … Continue reading →