A Simple Way to Build Your Confidence Today

I’m typing this article to you at 8:00pm on a Saturday night with a runny nose and annoying cough.

I could be watching reruns of American Pickers on The History Channel. That’s my normal “go to” couch potato TV indulgence when I’m sick.

So why am I here sending this to you? Because I TOLD somebody I would!

I knew early this morning I wanted to get this newsletter and video done, so I sent a text to my colleague, Dan Dore. I declared I would do this today. And it’s not midnight yet, so I’m still good and it feels good that I’m knocking it out.

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This is the point I want to make in this article.

Feeling good about ourselves is OUR job. Building confidence in ourselves is OUR responsibility.

So, even when we’re down, tired, lazy or sick we get to make a choice.

We can do another 8 hours of American Pickers on the History Channel or make a declaration we’re going to do something else.

And the best way to make sure you make a better choice is to make a commitment to someone you respect. Pick someone you know is pulling for you.

Make a new rule for yourself that if you tell someone you’re going to do something, then you will do it. No exceptions.

And while you’re at it, adopt another new rule for yourself that says, “If I really don’t want to do something, then I won’t say I’m going to do it!”

Watch my 2-minute video if you want to hear more about this message from my snotty, sneezy, coughing, feverish face.

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When you are not dedicated to keeping your word, not only your surroundings lose faith in you, you lose faith in yourself. ~ Tal Gur

That’s what this is really all about.

Confidence is basically having faith in yourself. And when you make a commitment to keeping your word – and being CONSISTENT – you feel more confident.

Men want to feel more confident in their ability to follow through, to be productive, to be a provider and to make an impact.

Nothing will help that more than being a man with a plan and a man who does what he says.

Pick ONE THING this weekend you want to accomplish or finish. Tell someone you’re going to do it. Reply to this and tell me. Send me a picture if you want!

You’ll feel better about yourself. Promise.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore has been a professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are lacking confidence, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life and relationships. Dan has 10 years experience coaching men to improve their self-confidence issues and improve their ability to create more emotional connection, more trust, more respect, and to learn how to lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. If you're tired of dealing with rejection and criticism, Dan will help you challenge the current status, stand up for what you want to change and finally be happy in yourself and your ability to create the kind of connection and passionate life that you really want.
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