How to BE the Happy, Confident Man She Fell In Love With

My passion for helping men never gets boring.

Every single guy…every single woman…and every single situation is unique.

That’s why “blanket advice” for any given problem is a problem.

Most of the time the solution or response DEPENDS on very nuanced details.

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Still clients call me and email me with urgent questions for some “quick advice”.

Yes, there are a few tried and true tips that apply to almost all situations, like:

  • Never be baited into stupid arguments about stupid shit
  • Never let someone get away with abusive or destructive treatment without calling it out directly
  • Always check your emotional reactions by pausing and being clear about what silly THOUGHT caused that reaction…then RESPOND with deliberate and conscious action

Even those golden nuggets are often misunderstood and misapplied by men all the time.

For example, a client asked me today,

“What should I do when she says I did something to upset her and then she shuts down, disconnects and “stonewalls” against any further communication.”

It depends. What happened? What did you do? How often do you do that? Are you happy with how you handled it? Do you have any clue as to why it upset her so badly?

What if it doesn’t have anything to do with you? What else is going on with her?

And most importantly, “Why are you so tied to her reaction and her approval of you?”

You may have seen this graphic before. My partner, Tim Wade, created this for our upcoming online course called How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb. And, yeah, our company name for that is “Mojopolis”. And we’re the mayors.

Femometer

This image needs ZERO explanation…except for one thing.

You need to grab a set of bolt cutters and immediately and permanently CUT THE CORD between you and the Femometer.

How do you do that you ask?

Simple.

You just flip the switch in your brain that makes you realize that you’re already a wildly happy, secure, confident man of tremendous value and humor.

Once the switch is flipped you smile…then you shake your head…then you say, “What a dope I was!”

I’m not making this up. This is actually possible and I see it every single week with men in my program.

And the process of finding that switch is ACCELERATED when you’re able to hear the detailed stories of OTHER MEN and be a part of their process of figuring it out.

And then they get to hear YOUR story. As they see you gaining strength, insight and confidence THEY share in your success.

Your success feeds them and vice-versa.

How do you get involved in a group like that.

Simple, brother.

Click HERE to learn about the upcoming Men’s Cave Group Coaching Program.

It’s exactly what you need if you want to accelerate your acquisition of emotional strength, confidence in your words and actions and boost to your mojo that’s nothing short of amazing.

In fact, if you join this program and DON’T believe you’re getting exactly what I just said by the end of the 4th group session, you get all your money back immediately without any questions, no guilt trip and no hard feelings.

How could anyone “guarantee” that you will feel stronger in your emotions, more confident in your words and actions and a major shot in the ass of manly mojo?

Simple. We see it every single week.

Arguments stop on a dime. Trust and respect return.

Affectionate smiles return. You’ve detached from the Femometer and feel calm, peaceful and deliberate in your thoughts and actions.

And you become quietly pleased with yourself without being as jerk.

My associate coach, Dan Dore, and I are running this 4 month program LIVE via Zoom video conferencing.

It’s going to follow the SAME 90-Day Masculine Confidence Intensive process I use for my one-on-one clients.

But you get to go through the process with the support of other men like you at ONE THIRD of the investment required for my one-on-one program.

Is this a sales pitch?

Hell yes it’s a sales pitch!

I love what I do. I love watching men transform and become happy, confident men with swagger and a smile. I love helping them stand up tall in their relationship and start becoming the man and partner they have always wanted to be.

That’s what I’m selling. And I give you all your money back if you feel like I didn’t deliver.

Who does that? People who believe in what they’re doing and who know how to deliver results, that’s who.

And more importantly, I will believe in YOU more than you may believe in yourself right now. Sometimes that’s all it takes to help a man find that switch and start making exponential improvements.

I have a coach in California named Rich Litvin. I’ll see him in April because I’m helping him run his annual intensive in Santa Monica.

He convinced me that investing in myself was non-negotiable. That I will never take any client deeper than I am willing to take myself (or let someone else take me!)

He believed in me at times when I didn’t think I had the courage to believe in myself. And he changed my life.

Why did I just tell you that?

Because I want to do the same for you.

It’s that simple.

Go the this page to read more about the coaching dates, the benefits and results you can expect and the pricing.

There are two payment plans available.

And, remember, there is absolutely NO RISK to you.

The only risk we have in life is not showing up.

Here’s the link once more:
The Men’s Cave Group Coaching Program

Here’s the Guarantee In Writing:

If you attend the first 4 sessions of this program in their entirety, actively participate in the coaching, ask questions and actively participate in the Secret Facebook Group…and you decide the program isn’t delivering what you expected…you will email personally and say, “It’s not working for me.” I will happily and lovingly send you all money paid up to that point. I will ask you for feedback to help me improve the program. And that’s it. Simple.

I’m just a phone call away if you want to chat about this and decide whether it’s a fit for you. I’m currently not taking new one-on-one clients until mid-March, but I’d love to hear your story and tell you about other options to get the support you need. Click here to send me your info and I’ll contact you asap.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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