Hey brother,
Some men know this nightmare all too well.
This is when my life changed in an instant.
It was the shocking realization that everything I thought was true about myself, my wife and my marriage was wrong.
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It was the paralyzing reality that I had absolutely no control in stopping the avalanche of fear, rejection and uncertainty that was about to wipe me off the face of the planet.
Do you know this feeling?
It sounds like:
I’m done. I’m just numb.
We’ve never had a connection.
I just need space and I don’t know if I’ll ever want to be with you again.
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I’m just not romantically attracted to you anymore.
I think we need to separate/divorce and see where this goes.
It feels like a black pillow case is thrust over your head as you’re thrown into a windowless van. Then you’re taken for a bumpy ride to an unknown destination as your captors beat you around the head and shoulders. You have no idea when or IF it will ever end.
And the burning knot in your stomach is relentless.
The weird thing about men is that we usually wait for this type of emotional “attack” before we start asking for support.
And when this kind of pain kicks in we are desperate for any help, advice or secret trick that will fix everything.
This will be your turning point if you make the right decision.
You’ll never be more happy, you’ll never feel more powerful, you’ll never feel more generous in your ability to connect with and love other people, than when you find joy inside yourself.
This is called self-reliance.
This is called independence.
This is called outcome independence.
This is knowing that you can live each day not needing to control everything.
Only controlling the things inside yourself.
Controlling your responses to the things that happen to you.
So when I get on my crusade for self-reliance, it’s not about detaching, it’s not becoming a lone wolf and becoming so independent from the world that you don’t need anybody, it’s not the ‘screw them’ attitude.
That’s not it at all.
Self-reliance and outcome independence is the mindset of a man who’s figuring out that he already has all the joy and happiness within him that he’ll ever need to love himself. He knows that he can control how he responds to create the circumstances in his life that he wants to experience.
So when you’re in the trauma of a relationship that’s going south or with a woman who’s pulling away from you or a pending divorce or separation, what I want you to know most is that you can thrive through this by controlling how you respond.
If you use this as the one trigger point in your life that says “You know what…I’ve had this wrong for the last few decades. I’ve been allowing people to strip me of my confidence, my own sense of self, my own values, my sense of worthiness…and I’m going to take my power back”.
The result of this decision is that when you take your power back, when you become truly self-reliant and truly outcome independent, that’s when you can finally relate to others from a place of generosity, from a place of abundance.
You’re not looking to other people to make you whole.
You don’t have conditional friendships and conditional love and conditional sex.
When you’re whole inside, you give wholly of yourself and you don’t have fear of anyone stripping away your security and your certainty, because you’re full of it – you’re overfilling your own bucket of love and certainty and so you can give it generously to others.
Even in the middle of a divorce or in the middle of the trauma of finding out that your life may be changing forever…I want you to know that this is the trigger point, this is the turning point in your life to where you can actually decide to do something different. To start thinking differently.
This is what I do. This is what I want to do for you.
I want to introduce you to a way of thinking. I want to introduce you to some men who’ve gotten through this. I want to introduce you to some authors and thinkers that will blow your mind. I want to show you how you can use this as the launching pad for a whole new life.
You are a man with many options.
You can regain more power, more confidence and more mojo than you know.
But no amount of begging or bargaining with her is going to get you that.
It takes a radically different approach and an empowering fresh perspective to emerge from this period in your life with your head held high and a grin on your face.
I needed a powerful, initiated group of men to teach me this. And just so I never forget the lessons, I’ve created a whole community of men who have successfully fought this battle. We’re brothers for life, a little scarred up…but grinning wide through our bloody lips.
It might seem like impossibility. But it’s not – especially if you’ve got someone in your corner to help you every step of the way.
I want you to feel like a strong, calm, confident and clear-headed man.
I want you to relax in situations that make normal men crazy.
I want you to grin with the knowledge you’re being who you want to be and you’re creating the life and love you want.
Why?
Because I spent decades not feeling that way and I now know there’s a way to get to the other side.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
