confidence | Good Guys 2 Great Men

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had – this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because I used to really like being right. I liked to win arguments with my ninja logic and debating skills. I never paid attention to her point of view…all I knew was that it was stupid and I knew how to … Continue reading →

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

calm mountain lion is like a confident man

The mountain lion speaks to me because he’s the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular…he just IS. This is what makes him so regal – so magnetic – so attractive. It’s the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He’s focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time. He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama. They say “the lion doesn’t turn around when the small dog barks”. And a Nigerian proverb says “The roaring lion kills no prey.” He doesn’t over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It’s an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN’S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What’s the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It’s the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants. Let me make this really clear. She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow: Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return … Continue reading →

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am. It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.” What’s my point here? Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Nobody. I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun? If you don’t know something then saying NO … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With Me, What Can I Do?

There’s this unbelievable vacation spot I’m in love with. It’s a sprawling Spanish style home, 7500 square feet, immaculate, stunning home perched on top of a mountain overlooking a village on the Pacific coast of Mexico. It’s got a gourmet kitchen that comes with a private chef and daily maid service. The food is amazing, the weather is perfect and the people are so friendly. You can walk down the mountain in just minutes for an early morning coffee, horseback ride or to grab a surf board and get another few runs in before lunch time. At night, I like to hang out with friends in the infinity pool and … Continue reading →

Failing Marriage? How to Create a Better Relationship – by Dan Dore

I had to learn this the hard way so I want to give you a head start… I had the best of intentions with regards to my marriage but yet when issues arose I struggled to find a solution to the problems. We focus so much, as men, on the result that we want. More affection, less arguing, more connection, less distance… It’s easy to find faults when a relationship is running off the rails and all our training points us to fixing what’s not working. Plug the hole and she’ll right herself…right? In this video I discuss how our approach is often all wrong and give an alternative way … Continue reading →

How to Be More Confident Around Your Wife

confident sexy husband kissing wife in public

Do you want an instant boost to your mojo? I’m talking about a sudden shift in your happiness, sense of purpose and connection with others. It’s an blinding flash of calmness and an instantaneous increase in your well being. I do an exercise during my retreats called The Energy Audit. It’s a very simple exercise, which involves identifying all the DRAINING, negative, counter-productive B.S. in your life. It’s the people, place, habits and things you do that sabotage your mojo. Then you list all the things you’re aware of that ENERGIZE you, motivate you and inspire you. These are the people, places, habits and things that give you a strong … Continue reading →

The Counter-Intuitive Way to Become More Attractive to Your Wife

A client once told me a story about his new girlfriend that made me laugh out loud. It was a Wednesday evening around 5:30pm. She was sitting on his couch and getting hungry. She said, “What do you want to get to eat tonight?” He said, “Tonight’s my men’s group night. I mentioned it earlier. I’ll be eating at the restaurant. I need to leave in a few minutes.” “Oh”, She said. “I forgot. Ummm…so I guess that means you’re kicking me out?” “That’s one way to look at it, I guess.”, he replied. Then she smiled and said, “I gotta tell you. I think it’s so HOT you’re kicking … Continue reading →

My Wife Doesn’t Respect Me, What Should I do?

About 3 years ago I was sitting in a private room in a brew pub with my local men’s group having our regular “Men, Marriage and Sex” meeting. As the meeting started we were laughing about something stupid someone said and just then the waitress came in to take beer orders. She (jokingly?) said, “What is this? A he-man woman haters club?” We laughed and didn’t even try to give an explanation…and she didn’t seem interested in hearing one either. It seemed she had already made up her mind. You may not be old enough to remember The Little Rascals. They created the first He-Man Woman Hater’s Club after being … Continue reading →

How Your Wife Loses Attraction and Respect For You

It’s midnight. It’s raining. You stopped by the grocery store to get stuff you really need and you’re in a hurry to get home. Just as you throw the last bag in the car you turn to look at the empty shopping cart. What do you do next? Nobody’s watching. Nobody will know. You can shove it into the space next to you and take off or you can beach it on a nearby island. Surely there’s some 14-year-old whose job it is to come find your cart in the morning. Or…do you bite the bullet and run it (or ride it preferably) down to the nearest “Cart Corral” area … Continue reading →