Who is Wearing the “Power” in YOUR Marriage?

Power? What do I mean by power?

I’m talking about the kind of power a man needs to create attraction.

The kind of power a man needs to LEAD others to places of emotional safety, respect, and passion.

The kind of power a man requires to meet the woman of his dreams or stay married to her.

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It’s often said that “He who cares the LEAST, has the most power in a relationship”.

In fact, you will hear me and many other authors say nearly the same thing.

Nearly.

I word it differently.

“He who cannot care less about what she thinks of him has the most power over himself.”

It is the lack of power over himself that is the very source of his inabilities to attract, inspire, lead, or seduce the woman in his life or those he wants in his life.

This power in NOT about caring less about HER, it’s about caring less about her opinion of YOU.

There is a HUGE difference between not giving a shit about her and not giving a shit about what she thinks about you.

The former I don’t advise.

The latter I believe is absolutely essential!

That statement normally stuns and confuses many men…and women. Let me explain.

Not giving a shit about her means not caring about her hopes, her dreams, her pains, or her passions.

That would be bad. Agreed?

Now, let’s assume for a minute that YOU have some pretty important hopes and dreams. Let’s assume YOU also have some pain. And let’s assume YOU also have some pretty intense passion for your goals, your values, your hobbies, your family, your wife, your sex life…whatever.

Each day you try to live your life reaching for your dreams. You think about them. You read about them. You talk about them. You learn about them. You dream about them.

You share your ideas and your enthusiasm with those you care about and those who care about you. You take action toward achieving your goals. You stumble. You move on. You are living the life YOU want to live in accordance with the desires that most drive you.

You acknowledge your pain. You openly discuss your feelings and your regrets. You share your emotions without shame because you know they are shaping you, redirecting you, and helping others to really know you.

You are passionate about forward momentum.  You love deeply and want to be loved deeply. Your desire to share intimacy of all types is raw, unapologetic, and non-negotiable.

You want to understand the needs of those you love. You give freely of your love and your acceptance of their dreams and passions. You support and affirm them in your words and actions the best way you know how. You believe in them and their value. You expect a long life of mutual support, respect, and sharing of passions.

Everything you say and do makes this expectation exceedingly clear.

You don’t give a shit about what ANYBODY thinks of you and your dreams.

Including your wife.

Why would you?

But many men do. They are deeply affected by how their wife treats them and their dreams. They are easily redirected by sarcasm, cynicism, doubt, and negativity.

They second guess their dreams and their values when others behave in ways that don’t support them.

They allow the threat of disappointment and disapproval to derail them.

The fear of not being loved anymore grips them. The idea of less sex paralyzes them.

They sacrifice their momentum and their energy in the name of compromise. Compromising their very VALUES. Compromising their very DREAMS. Compromising their PASSIONS.

This is NOT the kind of relationship “compromise” meant by all those books and articles.

This kind of compromise is how a man loses his power – power over himself.

This kind of compromise appears weak and unattractive to the woman in his life and to those he wants in his life.

This kind of compromise can destroy a man’s power to be who he wants to be.

Don’t compromise. Don’t lose your power. Don’t give a shit about what she thinks about you.

Choose to love. Choose to attract. Choose to inspire. Choose to lead.

Are you the man you were meant to be? Do you know who that is yet?

If not, it’s time to figure it out. Today.

Not tomorrow.

Really, tomorrow is no good.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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