How to Become a More Attractive Man

In today’s article I want to talk about the difference between what we do here at Goodguys2Greatmen and the myriad of other men’s support / therapy / counselling / Guru’s etc

We are a community of men who give a shit about each other, who are willing to talk about ANYTHING that we’re going through, who are willing to open up and be truthful about real shit that happened in our lives and relationships because we know that discussing these things together with other men is a game changer for you AND for us.

We don’t have a free group that you can join because this journey of being the man you love to be is not something that you learn in a 30 minute video. It’s much more important and much more complex than that.

We are all in this for the rest of our lives.

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I commit to you that I will be here for you when you need me and so do the rest of the brothers in this incredible community of men.

I do this not because it’s my job but because I want to be the best version of me and I need other men to help me create the experiences I want to have over the next 20 years – for the sake of my kids, my relationship, my fulfilment in work but most of all for me.

Every decision I make, every choice I take is an opportunity to either improve the man I show the world or to hold him back.

I talk more about this in the video below:

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“Every decision you take can either increase your value or decrease it”

It’s the start of another new year and rather than setting my self worth and self respect on someone else’s opinion of me or on how they are attracted to me or like me or how much they’re willing to pay me, my resolution is to continue to learn who I am and what I want to experience.

I know I’ll be successful in this because I’m on a path and I have people who are helping me see which path is right for me.

There are goals and achievements along the way for sure, but each time I reach one of those it’s with eager anticipation of the next challenge and a deepening experience of who I am and what I’m capable of.

Here are 7 statements for you to see whether you might be choosing to live a little below your potential as a man:

You think your wife or girlfriend is in control of the sex in your relationship

You hate your job because nobody listens to your opinion and you have no options to change it

You live pay check to pay check and it restricts what you want to do

You think being kind means making everyone else happy

You don’t have any male friends who question WHY you are unhappy

You’d rather look at porn than deal with the possibility of another rejection

You go with the flow and try not to rock the boat

When you’re upset it’s all consuming and you either shut down and get broody or blow up in frustration

You want to be healthier and fitter but you just can’t seem to make it happen

When you start making decisions with a growth mindset – that each of these decisions is made to improve you FOR YOU – you start to see more clearly that it’s so important to know what is right for you.

And that means you need to know who you are and what you want.

You can make decisions based on other people’s needs and grow.

​​​​​​​That’s not to say that you can’t support and care for other people, not at all.

​​​​​​​But when you choose to make a decision because it is something you give, like your generosity or your gratitude, then every time you take that action, you grow.

Your self respect grows. Your understanding of who you are grows. Your satisfaction that you are living as the man you know yourself to be grows.

And it feels good.

It feels really good.

Actually it feels so good that you start BEING more relaxed and happier.

​​​​​​​And then a strange thing happens…people start wanting to talk to you at places they wouldn’t normally.

Opportunities to do something that you enjoy start to present themselves.

Friends and kids start to want to just hang out and have fun with you.

Wives start wanting to flirt and spend time with you.

And it all comes from this seemingly selfish focus on yourself.

What do I want?

How can I make a decision to create a little of that today, right now even.

I want to get to know you. I want to support you and challenge you. I want to hear what you’re struggling with and learn from you.

That’s what I want.

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We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

What if this next year everything changed for you?

That’s what we want for you brother.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

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Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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