Hey brother,
“She says she doesn’t trust me anymore.”
“She won’t even talk to me about why she’s so mad.”
“She doesn’t believe I’m ever going to change.”
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These are some of the most common things guys tell me when intimacy and sex are disappearing in their relationship.
They want to know why it’s happening. What is she thinking? How do I FIX this.
The first part of understanding where you are right now is to understand how you got here.
The most important part of healing requires we admit we have a problem.
What’s the problem?
Distancing, disconnection and distrust are almost always created by the same thing.
It’s usually NOT what we’ve done…it’s what we didn’t do.
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I’m not blaming you, brother. This is a two-way street. This isn’t all on your shoulders. But reversing the downward spiral needs to start with someone and that someone may as well be you.
In the video below I reveal what you need to do next. It’s what should have been happening all along between the two of you.
It’s scary. It’s hard. It’s something that most couples never do.
Instead they play games. Emotional chess, I call it. It’s a slow acting poison that kills relationships and leaves people feeling drained of connection and trust.
This video also reveals the secret finale we’ve done at our past retreats. This blows everyone’s mind!
Where do you go from here?
Good question.
A lot of damage has been done and you’ve got no idea if you can pull out of this mess. The uncertainty right now is killing you.
There is only ONE WAY out. You have to choose to change YOU.
There’s no changing her, no fixing her, no convincing her and no reasoning with her.
She needs to trust again.
And that simply cannot happen without a consistent, committed effort on your part. Your efforts need to be ones you want to make for you….no matter what outcome occurs.
This is an effort to become the confident, honest, open, independent, decisive, clear headed man you want to be .
I help men do this through an intense, laser focused process of self-discovery and change.
The creates a rapid decrease in anxiety and increase in confidence and clarity.
And sometimes it makes a drastic improvement in their relationship.
But that’s not the point.
You have to keep your eye on the ball.
We don’t measure our success as a man by the reactions of others or by the outcomes we hope for. We have no control over those.
We measure our success by the degree to which we’ve met our own standards for character, emotional honesty, transparency and vulnerability.
That’s the strongest and most trustworthy place to live from.
And it’s only from there where she just might realize she can trust again.
Are you ready to build a foundation of trust with her again? Below are some options for you to get started right away…
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
- We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
- We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
