How to Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage

If you want to rebuild trust in your marriage, it starts with a cold, hard look at your own behavior. Women feel unsafe around a man with no consistent opinion, they hate us being wishy-washy and indecisive.

5 Traits Of A Wishy-Washy Man

Has your woman ever complained about you being undependable or wishy-washy?

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck and just can’t follow through on things?

Do you ever feel like other men are more confident than you and get more done?

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I want to talk about being a WISHY-WASHY MAN.

They are more common than you think. I was one – and still am sometimes.

The key traits of a wishy-washy man are:

  1. He is slow to answer questions and says “I don’t know” a LOT
  2. He feels sluggish in his mind and body and regrets not following through on things he wants
  3. He finds himself DEFENDING himself when pressured by others
  4. He doesn’t really have a f&*$ing opinion about anything
  5. He stews quietly in anger about his circumstances – mostly mad at himself

Any of those sound familiar?

A wishy-washy man is uninspiring to himself.

He has a lot of negative self-talk and beats himself up a lot.

He isn’t happy because he can HEAR HIMSELF speak and he doesn’t like what he hears.

Often, he knows his wife wants more from him. More leadership, more decisiveness and more confidence.

And it pisses him off that he just can’t seem to follow through.

In this video I give you more insight and offer you the first steps you can take to fix this.

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How to Stop Being Wishy Washy and Get What You Want

Stop Being Wishy-Washy By Owning Your Thoughts

This is a little “tough love” brother.

I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have men in my life who will challenge my excuses, my justifications and my fears.

They will call me on my bullshit when they see that my thinking is screwed up. And they do it with love and with my best interest in mind.

That’s why I’m bringing it up for you. Maybe you don’t have anyone to challenge you to step up and out of your sluggishness.

Sometimes just having a mirror held up to your face makes a man flip and switch and start making changes immediately.

It’s absolutely amazing how fast a man can turnaround his sense of confidence, clarity, focus and happiness when he decides he is going to OWN his thoughts and his actions.

One of the biggest challenges for the wives and girlfriends of my clients is believing how fast a mental shift is made in their man.

They want to believe it, but they don’t trust it. (as in, why couldn’t you do this years ago?!)

But, it is real. And it’s permanent.

It’s an immediate switch from wishy-washy to confident, clear and accountable. It’s almost too good to be true.

Stop Being Wishy-Washy To Create Safety

How would you like to hear your wife or girlfriend say, “I don’t know what’s gotten into you…but I like it!”?

Seriously. This is what happens when a man stops being wishy-washy and does his work.

If you’re ready to do some work, move quickly and accelerate your growth so fast it will make your head spin, then you’re ready for a deep dive coaching discovery call.

This is NOT a 15-minute teaser session. It’s a full blown deep dive coaching session to help you reach your first Ah-Ha! of many to come.

We want to know about your past. We want you to describe the future you want. And we want to help you see how your thoughts, words and actions are holding you back right now.

We will ask you about where you’ve been, where you want to go and what’s happening now in your life and relationship.

You can’t have that conversation in 15 minutes.

Are you ready for that?

Then fill out this application for your call.

Answer the unusually personal questions. Just filling this form out is an exercise that will make you feel better.

Then you’ll be matched up with me, Dan Dore or one of our certified GG2GM coaches around the world.

The life and relationships you want can’t happen until you stop being wishy-washy. Start making up your mind and notice how good it feels to bring leadership, decisiveness and safety to your relationship.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.
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