Sexual Attraction And How You (Subconsciously) Push Her Away

Have you ever heard a woman say, “Can’t you hear how you’re talking to me?”

How about, “I hate the way you make me feel!”

Yeah, me too.

And I didn’t get it. It sounded like crazy talk. It pissed me off that her unhappiness was always my fault.

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Finally…relief. After 28 yrs. I got divorced and I got to spend more time with my horse.

This is when I began connecting the dots between horses and women.

I’m not saying I think everything was my fault – it certainly wasn’t. But my horse has helped me see a few things much more clearly.

There’s a reason why many young girls and women are so magnetically drawn to horses. They speak a similar language and they get each other.

They also have similar tendencies to seek safety and to react to the slightest negative pressure

I explain this a little more in this video.

I’m makign this video for you today to talk about the one thing women hate most. It’s the same thing that horses hate most – and that’s pressure.

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The feeling of pressure.

We talk a lot about pressure in horse training and I teach men a lot about what pressure is to women in relationships, especially in romantic, sexual relationships.

With horses, pressure is felt a million different ways. It could be the way you look at them, the way you talk at them, the way you walk around them, the way you open a gate or close a gate.

A horse is so sensitive that it can feel a fly land on one hair on its butt, and immediately become agitated, and annoyed and you’ll see it swish its tail.

Horses are designed to detect pressure, to detect predators, to detect anything that isn’t safe. Their eyes are set back in their heads so that they can graze in tall grasses and still see above the grasses to make sure they’re safe, to make sure that nothing is going to kill them.

Women are a lot like horses. I say this a lot.

They feel pressure in a MILLION different ways.

They feel pressure by the way we walk, the way we talk, by the way we breathe, by the way we hold ourselves in front of them, by the way we close doors and open doors.

They feel pressure by the way we feel about ourselves.

Women can feel negative pressure or threatening pressure by the way we argue.

They can also sense pressure in a positive way though.

This is one thing we talk a lot about in our group coaching program.

Some of the positive pressures that women can feel around you are, the positivity of your confidence, the positivity of your ability to lead your emotions, the positivity of the environment that you create when you’re in their presence.

They like that kind of pressure. It’s a leading kind of pressure as opposed to a negative kind of controlling pressure.

The same goes for horses.

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In our coaching program we talk a lot about how to know when you are creating a negative pressure in the environment that threatens, intimidates and pushes away or repels. And we’ll talk about how do you create a positive pressure that is a positive tension.

It could be a positive emotional attention. It could be a positive sexual tension.

You have to know the difference between negative tension and positive tension. You have to know how to create positive and stop creating the negative.

We work on that a lot. We laugh a lot.

In the confident man ranch retreat which I just finished here in Colorado we taught 10 incredible men about how horses relate to women and how by working with them helps you make some connections in your mind which made them say

“Holy crap, I can’t believe what I’ve been doing that’s been pressuring my wife”

“I can’t believe how I’ve been sabotaging my sex life”

“I can’t believe that what I’ve been doing, made her freak out in her own skin and she couldn’t even tell me about it”

I believe you and I have an untapped super power.

We have the power to create a new reality by simply changing who we are being. This power is independent from what anyone else is thinking or doing.

We can’t wait for anyone else to create the life we want.

If we want more connection – we must become more connected.

If we want more respect – we must become more respectable.

If we want more openness – we must become fearlessly vulnerable.

And if we want more affection and sex – we must become unapologetically affectionate and sexual.

A client told me recently that he’s had to start turning down sex!

I know. It sounds unbelievable, but it’s true. He chose to learn how to LEAD.

But he didn’t lead his wife. He led his own thoughts, emotions and behavior.

He figured out how to create a new environment and now he goes through each day with a big grin on his face. His business is booming, his friendships are stronger and his sex life is sizzling.

It’s a true story. When you stop reacting to others and learn how to confidently lead yourself…everything in your life gets better…almost immediately.

When I learned this stuff it felt like a 2×4 smacked me right in the head. And that’s what it will feel like for you – in a good way.

It’s a topic we’ll be covering in depth in our next Group coaching program.

I know I’ve been sending you a bunch of emails about this.

I’m so stoked about this program that I can’t help myself.

It’s about the incredible breakthroughs we make when men team up and work together.

It’s about feeling heard and understood maybe for the first time ever.

It’s about that calm, confident, peaceful feeling we get when we see the truth about our masculine power and ability to live what we dream.

And it’s about creating new connections and a support network most men don’t have before they die.

I’ve spent a lot of time in nursing homes (both my parents have died in them) and I’ve seen way too many 90 yr. old men sitting all alone in their wheel chair in the corner pissing their pants. They’re angry and isolated. And they watch while the old ladies make friends, play games and support each other.

I’ve decided this will not happen to me.

Now you know why I’ve been bugging you. I want to meet you, connect with you and build a life-long relationship with you. And I want you to want that with other men too.

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Lotta love brother.

I want you to feel like a strong, calm, confident and clear-headed man.

I want you to relax in situations that make normal men crazy.

I want you to grin with the knowledge you’re being who you want to be and you’re creating the life and love you want.

Why? Because I spent decades not feeling that way and I now know there’s a way to get to the other side.

If you’re ready to get to the other side then go HERE to apply for our first discovery call which is free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence.

You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there – and she doesn’t WANT to…trust me on that.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach

Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

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