Your Secret Power – Are You Creating Positive Feelings?

By: Steve Horsmon

Hey guys, I have a question for you.  If today you were given a secret power to instantly create a positive experience for anyone – anytime, why wouldn’t you use it?  Can you think of any reason that you would consciously withhold using this power in your life?  Assume it has no limits and you don’t have to “save” your power.  How generous would you be?

Guess what?  This power is absolutely, positively inside you.  Always has been. This is not an April Fool’s joke.   This is not a story or analogy.  This is a certain truth about your masculinity that you have probably never been told.  This is where I come in, brother.

When it comes to your relationships, especially your romantic and parenting relationships, you are being watched very closely.  Not literally “watched” – but your intentions are being received and felt every minute.  The women in your life are particularly programmed to react to your intentions, your tone, your words, your emotion, and your mood.  This also applies if you are in a leadership position at work or church.

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The truth about your masculinity is that, when properly developed, it is a secret power that can be used to create powerful feelings of connection, happiness, trust, and respect in all of your relationships if you choose to do so.

Note to the ladies reading – the answer is “Yes”.  You ALSO have this power.  It comes from your core femininity and it is mind-blowing!  Your power is EQUAL to your man‘s power.  But, it manifests itself in very different ways.

“If you have the power to create a positive experience, then why wouldn’t you do it?  ~  Joe Vitale

So, I ask again, why wouldn’t you use it?  Some of my clients, even when they begin learning of this power will give excuses:

  • My wife has been rejecting me
  • My employees disrespect me
  • My kids won’t listen to me
  • My girlfriend has been neglecting me

When these men finally have their epiphany, they bang their head on the table.  This is because they are faced with admitting that they have been stingy with their power.  They finally realize that the man they want to be uses this power constantly.  This power must ALWAYS come from a PLACE OF LOVE and is used as a blessing or a gift to others in your life without expectation.  A great man gives this gift to others not to GET anything in return, but because it is who he is.

What do the gifts look like – sound like – feel like?

These masculine gifts look like a genuinely happy, optimistic, and confident man.  They sound like authentic words of affirmation and support.  They feel like an organic energy full of respect, admiration, and trust.  If these gifts are delivered from a masculine core of confidence and self-respect, their truth and power are undeniable.  Gentlemen, I’m not making this up just to write an article.  This is absolutely true.  This is my gift to you.

If a man is unable to give these natural gifts from a place of love and a developed masculine core, he has NO BUSINESS expecting to receive these from anyone else in his life.  Until he learns how to use his secret power, ALL of his relationships will experience problems because he has not accepted his role in creating an environment where others can feel safe in giving of themselves and showing their trust and respect in him.

I invite all men who want to become the man they were meant to be to think about their secret power.  Is it developed enough?  Do you understand it well enough?  What can you do tomorrow that will show your commitment to using the power wisely?

This is a life skill that is a GAME CHANGER.  Contact me right away to discuss YOUR plans for changing this skill AND the rest of your life.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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