Should Men Assert Their Needs In Marriage?

When men assert their needs it goes in one of two directions. One direction creates the potential for intimacy and the other direction erodes intimacy.  I’m going to explain why getting clear on desiring her uniqueness vs having desire makes the difference she can feel.

When a marriage is starting to falter, we feel like we can’t say what we want. It feels awkward to explain our feelings.

Why are we so nervous when it comes to being emotionally honest about what we want?

Why are we afraid to stand up for what we value in our relationship?

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Men in this community are smart, caring, sensitive, romantic and articulate.

But we find ourselves lost for words to express our feelings in the face of an angry, unhappy wife.

And there’s a little secret we keep when we complain about loss of “intimacy”.

The truth is that we’re secretly trying to get sex. We’ll say or do anything to get her to have sex. And she knows it.

There is a better way.

“I don’t have a dirty mind. I have a sexy imagination.” ~ unknown

When we’re coaching men around the desire for more sex in their marriage, we teach them about the energetic difference between wanting sex and desiring HER.

Once you understand this you will see an immediate shift.

It’s as obvious as someone approaching you with clenched fists and a scowl…or a cold beer and a smile.


When men assert their needs, Women FEEL the reason behind his approach at the molecular level

And that’s why things will change so fast when YOU change your energy around your sexual desire.

Do you remember the first month of dating her? You were mesmerized by her mind and her heart. You just loved having her sit in the front seat of your car.

Your “regard” for her was based on a genuine attraction to her nature and respect for her uniqueness.

And now? Not so much. Right? (that was my story anyway)

Your sexual needs are not wrong. Men who assert their needs from a place of appreciation find their needs get met.

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With humor, movie clips and graphics we illustrate the energetic change you need to create the change you want in your marriage.

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These are changes you’ve been wanting to make on your own anyway. This is what every man tells us about halfway into the course.

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We go deep, dark and funny because this stuff is psychologically complicated…it’s scary…and when you get your mojo back…it’s kind of funny.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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