What To Do When You’ve Been Called Needy Or Creepy

Have you been called needy or creepy or weird by your wife or girlfriend? Did it frustrate and confuse you?

Warning: This email might sting.

I wrote it as if I was sending it to a slightly younger version of myself. This comes from my past.

If you relate to what I’m about to tell you and it turns out you’re a little needy, I assure you that there is a brighter future ahead.

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Being called “needy” is one of the most embarrassing, shaming and, usually, anger producing things that can happen.

What does it mean?

I’ve explained it before in terms of being a hummingbird vs. a mountain lion with your energy. This is an anxiety based neediness. Click that link for a video about that.

In this email I want to give you THREE things that are leading indicators of neediness. These are indicators of a deeper level of neediness based in insecurity, fear and self-worth.

I explain these THREE sure-fire ways to know if you’re being needy in this video.

The three ways to know if you’re being needy are:

Wait. Doesn’t everyone get angry, argumentative and lonely sometimes?

Yes. Absolutely.

But there are healthy ways a person experiences those things and unhealthy ways.

Persistent and uncontrollable anger is usually a sign that you have unhealthy expectations of someone or something.  Unhealthy expectations are those that are REALLY just “silent demands” you’re making on others to make you feel good.  They are hard “rules” you’ve created in your mind for how things or people are SUPPOSED to be.  And when they aren’t – you lose it.  It shows up to others as neediness.  You NEED them to do or be something to make you feel better about yourself and to make the anger go away.

Constant arguing and creating conflict is usually a sign you have a need to “win” or to be “right” about something.  It’s also a sign that you don’t feel confident in yourself and you need to defend your feelings or your opinion.  It shows up to others as neediness.  You NEED to be heard and to be right in order to feel validated – that you are not crazy or stupid.  You want to feel respected and you’re finding that arguing isn’t the best tool. 

Feeling lonely whenever you’re alone is usually a sign that you’re not happy with your own company.  Aloneness doesn’t need to result in loneliness when you’re actually aware of your own value and well-being and satisfied with who you are.  Feeling lonely all the time is a sign you’re looking outside yourself for affirmation and approval that you’re good enough.  It shows up to others as neediness.  You NEED them to take away your loneliness by rescuing you from your own insecure internal world.

Hey, I warned you this might sting. I remember the harsh burn of facing this news very clearly.

I’ve discovered the road to healthy SELF-RELIANCE and cool, calm, peaceful self-confidence can be a little bumpy.

Sometimes emails like this punch you in the nose and you want to hit back.

I get it.

But…I want to offer you a solution.

What if you found out the road isn’t all that scary when you’re with men who have already traveled it – many times. And they can reassure and guide you every step of the way.

Will you make yourself a priority this year?

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore has been a professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are lacking confidence, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life and relationships. Dan has 10 years experience coaching men to improve their self-confidence issues and improve their ability to create more emotional connection, more trust, more respect, and to learn how to lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. If you're tired of dealing with rejection and criticism, Dan will help you challenge the current status, stand up for what you want to change and finally be happy in yourself and your ability to create the kind of connection and passionate life that you really want.
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