I Think I Married The Wrong Person, What Now?

The holiday season can be brutal for everyone.

I don’t need to list all the irregular crap couples have to endure throughout the season. You know about the stress of the expenses, expectations, travel and unruly relatives.

Many men cringe at all of the drama and don’t know how to cope. It seems the safest route is to just follow orders and try to make everyone happy.

But the “safest” route of trying to “make momma happy” is probably the most ineffective and aggravating energy you could possibly have.

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You feel like you’re treading on eggshells waiting for orders. You find yourself apologizing and asking for permission or direction for making her more happy.

The dirty little secret you have is that you need her to be happy with you.

I want to offer you another mantra.

Instead of “If Momma Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy”, try this on.

“If Daddy Ain’t Happy He Needs Get His Shit Together Because Nobody Else Can Make Him Happy…and if He’s Not Happy Then His Whole World Appears Unhappy and He Will Think His Life Sucks”

I explain this concept and HOW TO STAY IN YOUR LANE in this 4 minute video.

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What if Daddy Ain’t Happy?

I coach men about the idea of being the “emotional weatherman” for their family and for themselves.

This means YOU get to decide if the day is going to be emotionally “sunny”, “partly cloudy”, or “full of shit storms”.

The critical life skill every man needs is to define his OWN emotional weather pattern. He does this consciously as he rolls out of bed every single day.

And he does this deliberately with HOW HE RESPONDS to the weather he sees in others.

He must “stay in his lane” if he wants to be a positive influence on anyone else.

And when he finds that some people are just having a “shit storm” day he knows that he doesn’t need to have one too.

When the masculine emotional energy in your house is strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable you will start to see AMAZING changes around you.

Others will want to be in that lane with you. You will be magnetic.

And you will start to see:

“If Daddy Doesn’t Stay in His Lane He Will End Up in Someone Else’s Lane and He Will Hate That.”

There is ONLY ONE WAY for your masculine emotional energy to become strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable.

And it is NOT by seeking direction, approval and permission from “momma”.

It happens when you proactively choose to spend time with men who are already driving in that lane.

It happens when you decide that lane is for you and nothing will keep you from getting there.

There are so many things to know about your own insecure triggers…your own anger…and you’re own immature reactions. (I’ve driven in those lanes…no fun at all.)

There is so much to know about the emotional world of women and their incessant mind monkey chatter and internal shame triggers.

Once you start learning this stuff you will feel a rush of relief and competence in handling your own happiness.

I was going to put in a testimonial next, but 3 minutes ago a guy commented on the video above.

Well said Steve. My wife started coming back to me just like you had said. Now good days and bad days sometimes, but your right. SO WHAT?!

What he has learned is that when he stays in his happy, positive, confident lane…everyone, including his wife, wants to be there too.

We’ve created many options for you to get this knowledge and support so you can be consistent and really, really LIKE YOURSELF as you’re doing the work.

The next step for you is to make a courageous, no nonsense decision to connect with me and my coaches to start 2021 off with a bang.

If you want to get serious in 2021 about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to help you feel calmer…cooler…and more relaxed and measured in your emotions.

We can give you details about the options you have for going deeper in 2021 to transform yourself and your intimate relationship.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

“Damn, this felt better than a year of counseling! I can’t believe someone really listened to me and understands exactly who I am and where I am!”.

How do you set up this call?


Click HERE to go to the application for your free consultation. We want to know some things about you first and will schedule the call right away. You will be matched up with either to me or one of my certified coaches around the world.

You’re not alone brother. I promise.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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