The BIGGEST TURN OFF She Will Never Tell You

One of the most valuable pieces of information I can share with you about sexual attraction and sexual rejection is this.

By the time sexual frustration and conflict enter into a relationship, there has been a long road of bad feelings AND bad behavior on both sides.

Your wife or girlfriend is CRYSTAL CLEAR about the negative energy you BOTH have generated. While she is feeling bad and emotionally mistreated, she is also keenly aware of how badly she has been treating you.

In this reality, it is impossible for her to feel sexually attracted to you.

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Do you feel the same? Probably not.

In fact, most men believe that a sexual connection at this point would help to reconnect and smooth over the negativity and erase the bad feelings caused by being treated poorly.

She thinks this is INSANE.

This issue is the BIGGEST turn-off. To her it feels unattractive, un-manly, and a little desperate.

She can not imagine having sex with someone that she is not attracted to.

Given how horrible she’s been and how she’s has treated you, how could you possibly be attracted to her and want sex?

If you consistently make sexual advances toward a woman who is feeling unattractive she will also find YOU unattractive.

And if you act sexually attracted to a woman who KNOWS she has been acting unattractively and not attracted toward you, she WILL lose respect for you.

The old cliché is that women need to feel intimacy before having sex – men need to have sex to feel intimacy. Clichés are born for a reason. There is a lot of truth to this.  But you’re not a slave to it.

So what do you do?

You must choose a new principle for yourself and starting operating by it today. The new principle will mean taking sex off the table unless the feelings YOU require are present.

The new mindset requires you to raise your standards and expectations for HER to earn sexual intimacy with YOU. You are the prize here, not her. Scary stuff, huh? I know.  That is a critical mind-shift.

It’s time you hit the reset button and starting acting like the prize you were before things got rough.

It’s time to remember and embrace the YOU who was irresistible to her in the beginning, before bad feelings and bad behavior became a problem.

Taking sex off the table until your conditions are met is essential.

These conditions are FIRST about meeting the expectations you have for yourself in regard to how you feel and how you treat her.

These conditions are ALSO about her choosing to meet your expectations for how you want to feel and how you expect to be treated.

This is called “setting your boundaries” – first for yourself, then for her.

This isn’t easy work. I know. It’s a huge change for most of us. I can help you understand this and exactly HOW this is going to go for you.

Just call or just email. Talking it out with a brother is the best thing you can do.  Use that annoying “Let’s Talk” pop-up box if you need to.

Just make the decision to DO something different.  Something new.

Remember…

Only TWO THINGS change your life: either something new comes into your life, or something NEW comes out of you!  (Brendon Burchard)

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

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