The BIGGEST TURN OFF She Will Never Tell You — 2 Comments

  1. I know you are trying to do great things for men (Guys) but I can tell you from a women’s point of view. This Shutting her off until she comes around thing will never work if she is feeling the unattractive thing about her man. If he really wants the relationship to work out and things to get better with the relationship, he needs to whew her in ways he has never tried before. Show her he can and WANTS to keep her interest and WANTS to be the sexy, handsome, diva of a man she fell in love with. The relationship started with him and her both being very attracted to each other for one reason or another. I remember you telling men they need to give it their all and then if that doesn’t work use a more drastic measure like you have suggested here shut her off. But, …. There is a reason she is not attracted to him and he needs to figure it out. Talk with her, be vulnerable to her. !MOST! women love that approach a ton better that being shut out. Women for the most part want the man they chose in the begin to last forever, and MOST of women are willing to work things out to help make that happen. But if you allow yourself to shut her off your response will be her shutting him off even more and the relationship ending in the worst way.

    Now, I am not psychiatrist or anything but sometimes common sense is a great tool, especially in relationships. The two way street is still a good compromise to keep two people that REALLY REALLY love each other and want their relationship to last forever to us before you take other measures to get your way.

    • Hey Cindy!

      Thanks for commenting!

      I see what you’re saying and I agree with you. I’d never advise shutting her off of love, respect, and communication.

      Maybe the article wasn’t clear.

      The only thing I’m telling guys to “shut off” is their urgency and need to have sex no matter what. Have standards of their own. Most guys will even accept sex when she is doing it out of guilt or obligation.

      I think guys should change that dynamic. Show her you can love her and respect her and enjoy her without it having to result in sex.

      Set higher standards for MUTUAL feelings of attraction and desire and don’t buckle to your sex drive because it sends the wrong message – that you’ll do ANYTHING for sex…even bad sex. That’s unattractive and hard to respect – especially if she knows she’s been acting just as poorly toward you.
      Does that sound any different?

      Thanks for making me think!