How Do You Handle An Unhappy Wife?

Many men we speak desperately try to avoid “drama” and struggle to handle an unhappy wife. It seems the safest route is to just follow orders and try to make everyone happy.

How has choosing the safest route worked out in your marriage?

Happy wife, happy life is a mantra spoken by men who operate from fear instead of certainty.

A man who operates with the belief that the only way he can have a happy life is through having a happy wife is often clueless about how to create the happiness he wants.

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The truth is that this age-old mindset is probably the most ineffective and aggravating energy you could possibly have.

I guarantee all areas of your life will improve when you get solid and unapologetic about whose happiness should be your priority.

Do You Feel Like You’re Treading On Eggshells Waiting For Orders?

If you find yourself apologizing and asking for permission or direction for making her more happy then here’s a dirty little secret: You don’t know how to be happy without her.

I want to offer you a different mantra.

Instead of “If Momma Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy”, try this on…”If Daddy Ain’t Happy He Needs Get His Shit Together Because Nobody Else Can Make Him Happy…and if He’s Not Happy Then His Whole World Appears Unhappy and He Will Think His Life Sucks”

I explain this concept and HOW TO STAY IN YOUR LANE in this 4 minute video.

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If Momma Ain’t Happy…So What??…What if Daddy Ain’t Happy?

I Coach Men About The Idea Of Being The “Emotional Weatherman” For Their Family And For Themselves

This means YOU get to decide if the day is going to be emotionally “sunny”, “partly cloudy”, or “full of shit storms”.

The critical life skill every man needs is to define his OWN emotional weather pattern. He does this consciously as he rolls out of bed every single day.

And he does this deliberately with HOW HE RESPONDS to the weather he sees in others.

He must “stay in his lane” if he wants to be a positive influence on anyone else.

And when he finds that some people are just having a “shit storm” day he knows that he doesn’t need to have one too.

When the masculine emotional energy in your house is strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable you will start to see AMAZING changes around you.

Others will want to be in that lane with you. You will be magnetic.

And you will start to see:

“If Daddy Doesn’t Stay in His Lane He Will End Up in Someone Else’s Lane and He Will Hate That.”

There is ONLY ONE WAY for your masculine emotional energy to become strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable.

And it is NOT by seeking direction, approval and permission from “momma”.

Happy Wife, Happy Life Ends When You Proactively Choose To Spend Time With Men Already Driving In Their Own Lane

It happens when you decide that lane is for you and nothing will keep you from getting there.

There are so many things to know about your own insecure triggers…your own anger…and you’re own immature reactions. (I’ve driven in those lanes…no fun at all.)

There is so much to know about the emotional world of women and their incessant mind monkey chatter and internal shame triggers.

Once you start learning this stuff you will feel a rush of relief and competence in handling your own happiness.

I was going to put in a testimonial next, but 3 minutes ago a guy commented on the video above.

“Well said Steve. My wife started coming back to me just like you had said. Now good days and bad days sometimes, but your right. SO WHAT?!”

What he has learned is that when he stays in his happy, positive, confident lane…everyone, including his wife, wants to be there too. What lane have you been living in? The happy wife, happy life lane? Now is the time to change lanes. Your lane is filled with your approval, your permission, and your direction. You owe it to yourself it drive in this lane and enjoy how good it feels.

We’ve created many options for you to get this knowledge and support so you can be consistent and really, really LIKE YOURSELF as you’re doing the work.

The next step for you is to make a courageous, no nonsense decision to connect with me and my coaches.

If you want to get serious about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to help you feel calmer…cooler…and more relaxed and measured in your emotions.

We can give you details about the options you have for going deeper to transform yourself and your intimate relationship.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

“Damn, this felt better than a year of counseling! I can’t believe someone really listened to me and understands exactly who I am and where I am!”.

How do you set up this call?


Click HERE to go to the application for your free consultation. We want to know some things about you first and will schedule the call right away. You will be matched up with either to me or one of my certified coaches around the world.

You’re not alone brother. I promise.

P.S. If you haven’t yet read my book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband, go here to spend the smartest $7.99 you will spend.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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