Here’s the question I got again this week.
“Hey Steve, what am I supposed to do when she gives my that tone of voice that pretty much says FUCK YOU. You know, it comes with that foul mood and snarky voice that tells you she’s pissed about something or someone and you don’t have a clue why? It’s so freakin’ annoying, disrespectful, and honestly, hurtful as hell. How do I tell her how I feel and to stop doing it?”
My answer includes part of what David Deida writes in his book, “The Way of the Superior Man”. I’ve recommended that before and will again. It’s an important read for you. He writes:
“When a woman gets emotionally intense, a mediocre man wants to calm her down and discuss it, or leave and come back later when she is ‘sane’. A superior man penetrates her mood with imperturbable love and unwavering consciousness. If she still refuses to live more fully in love, after a time, he lets her go”.
The problem with books like his and statements like this is that a regular guy has trouble deciphering EXACTLY what it means to him and his situation. It’s hard to translate those sentences into something that YOU can actually use.
That’s where I come in and help you directly with the exact situation you have. If you haven’t felt what it’s like to talk to a guy who help lead you through this and make you INSTANTLY feel better and in more control of yourself, it’s time you called or emailed me.
In the case above I advise that you really understand ONE THING first.
This is NOT about YOU. It is about her and how she is feeling at this very moment. Her feelings are true. They are real.
But, they are NOT your feelings, your creation, or your fault – no matter what she says.
Knowing this at your core will help you to:
1. Not take it personally at all and NOT get pissed.
2. Look her straight in the eye and into her heart.
3. Listen. Just listen. Don’t retaliate. Don’t argue.
4. Not ask her ANY questions.
5. Depending on the issue I would coach you to:
* Just hold her or kiss her gently
* Make a clear and loving statement about her behavior toward you and your values
for the relationship
* Give her a hug and reassurance
* Do something playful to break the tension while reminding her that you KNOW
she is better than she is treating you
This frame of mind , strength, and skill will begin to change the energy and her reactions toward you. She NEEDS to know that you will not over-react to her emotions and can experience her moods without getting so RATTLED.
The most supportive, loving, understanding, attractive, and DESIRABLE energy you can respond with is an energy of strength and unconditional love WRAPPED with your spirit of unflappable confidence that her moods CAN NOT ruin your day or your life.
This is absolutely doable on your part.
You need support. I know it sounds hard,
It’s not. It’s a PROCESS. And you can do it.
It takes practice.
It’s the FRAME you need in ALL areas of your life.
It will change everything.
Deep breath, brother. Your good is coming.
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You’ll get your “mojo” back. That feeling that you’re in control of your destiny.
You will have ZERO regrets just like every man I meet.