Can You Fix A Broken Marriage and Sex Life?
Many men come to us to learn how to fix a broken marriage. They imagine their marriage is a V-8 engine. Maybe it has a bad spark plug..? Would you get a new engine or replace the spark plug?
If you’re anything like me, the answer is “Hell yes”! If changing a spark plug would fix a broken marriage I’d do it! (And I’d change the oil and air cleaner while I’m at it)
And therein lies the problem…I’m a “fixer”! How about you?
Well, no mechanic should work on an engine (much less a marriage) until he understands how the engine works. Check out the video further down. I did another interview with Silke Schwarzkopf. I promise you’ll gain some new understanding from her feminine perspective.
I love to troubleshoot, analyze, dissect and solve problems. And because I’ve gotten pretty good at it, I tend to see every problem as “fixable” with enough focus, time and elbow grease.
What about your wife, marriage and sex life?
Are you thinking externally about this issue?
Other articles you may find helpful:
What Confidence Looks Like In A Struggling MarriageA Married Man’s Path Back to Intimacy
Thinking that a quick error code check and a tune-up should whip everything back into shape?
Yeah, I’ve been there…done that. Doesn’t work. Why?
I Can Fix Anything – Why Can’t I Fix A Broken Marriage?
Because you have to understand the SYSTEM of what you’re working on before you can improve it.
Ever see a guy who knows nothing about cars pop the hood and start banging on things? Well, I kind of did that in my 28-year marriage.
I didn’t understand REALLY how it all worked. I didn’t know why I would wind up so incessantly frustrated and resentful that I couldn’t “fix” it.
More related articles for you:
How Overreacting Reduces the Affection in Your MarriageHow To Get What You Want Especially If You Really Really Want It
I recently did a series of videos with a really great lady named Silke Schwarzkopf with 2nd Act TV.
She wanted to know all about what I teach guys. I think she was a little skeptical at first. (She asked me about my relationship with “The Red Pill” movement)
Take a look for yourself. It was a great conversation. I’ve got two more of these to share with you later.
Relationships after 50: She Says She Wants Space? Help for Men Struggling in Their Relationship!
If you have something to add to the conversation, leave a comment for Silke. She always replies and will appreciate it.
And if it’s really personal, you might feel more comfortable having a private conversation with me or one of our certified coaches.
By this time you know how I feel about the importance of MEN talking with other MEN. We say “Mountain lions need other mountain lions to become even better mountain lions.”
These free consultations are always mind-blowing. This is our favorite reaction.
“I’m not sure what I expected for our call, but holy crap, I got way more out of this than I expected. Why are men NOT being taught this stuff in grade school?!”
What stuff? Here are some video highlights:
- Why I can’t stop helping men like you (like me) 1:45
- The things wives say that make us start Googling like mad at 3:00am (these are warning signs too) 2:25
- GG2GM vs. Red Pill Theory (this is important) 4:00
- Why you can’t fix a woman like a John Deere tractor 7:15
- The things your dad never told you about women 8:15
- The only course online that teaches you How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb and keep your self-respect intact! 9:30
I just scratch the tip of the iceberg in this video. There’s so much more for you to learn. Let’s have a conversation! You can’t fix a broken marriage like a John Deere tractor but you can understand what’s really going on. Nothing can improve until you gain this understanding. I’m here to give you the tools you need to change the rest of your life.
Fill out the unusually personal questions. (just answering these is an exercise in clarity)
Be honest. Be thorough.
Let us show you something you didn’t expect.
That’s a promise.
Q: Why can’t I just “fix” my broken marriage like I fix problems at work or in my car?
A: Because your marriage isn’t a V-8 engine, it’s a living system of two nervous systems, histories, fears, and needs. You can’t wrench on your wife like a John Deere tractor. You have to understand how the whole system works before you can influence it.
Q: How do I know if I’m focusing on the wrong thing when I try to fix my marriage?
A: If all your energy goes into “What do I say to her?” or “What trick will make her stay?” you’re thinking externally. Real change starts with how you see yourself, women, conflict, and intimacy—not with another script, tactic, or apology campaign.
Q: What should I do when my wife says she wants space or doesn’t know what she feels?
A: Don’t scramble to tighten the bolts. Slow down and get curious. Her “I need space” is a signal that the system is overloaded. Your job isn’t to talk her out of it—it’s to understand what’s really going on and become a calmer, clearer man inside it.
Q: How is learning about women different from “Red Pill” strategies or manipulation tactics?
A: Red Pill theory often treats women like broken machines or opponents to outmaneuver. What we teach is the opposite: you learn how women actually experience safety, trust, and attraction, and you grow into a man who leads himself—no games, no scripts, just grounded masculine clarity.
Q: Why do things usually get worse when I start frantically trying to fix my marriage?
A: Because she feels your panic, not your power. When you “troubleshoot” her and the relationship like a broken engine, you send the message, “I can’t handle this unless you change.” That’s not attractive or safe. Calm self-respect and understanding are what shift the dynamic.
Q: If I can’t fix my wife, what can I realistically change to improve my marriage?
A: You can change how you show up—your mindset, boundaries, emotional steadiness, and willingness to really learn how women work. When you stop banging on the hood and start understanding the system, you become a man she can either reconnect with…or you become the man you’re proud to be, no matter what happens.
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