Wife is Happy Around Everyone Except You – Why?

Is your wife cold and unaffectionate with you but happy around everyone else? Do you feel confused why she lights up and gives her attention and affection to everyone except you?

Have you had any of the following thoughts:

Why does she act like she would rather be anywhere on this planet but with me?

This is getting under my skin and making me boiling mad!

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She’s happy with everyone but me

Why can’t she like me for who I am?

I feel hurt, unappreciated, and ignored.

Sound familiar?

In the video further down, I make several comparisons of horses to women to help explain what’s going on here.

Are you a man who creates an environment women can soften and feel safe in?

There’s a way we can be as men that scares off horses which also relates directly to why your wife doesn’t like being around you either. And I’ll also explain what you can do to change this in the future.

The Right Environment for Intimacy

Let’s talk about how men, women (and horses, of course) feel the PRESSURE to get away.

Let’s talk about how we can reduce the pressure and create an environment where softness, relaxation and closer INTIMACY is possible.

Watch or listen to this video to find out WHAT we do to cause this and what it looks and sounds like.

Then below I’ll talk about WHY we do this and how change things up.

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When It’s NOT Okay to Just Be Yourself With Women

If She’s Happy With Everyone But Me, I Check My Reactions

In the video I talked about the kinds of things women can do to make YOU want to run for the hills.

It’s that constant aggressive, loud, nagging, disappointed, disapproving, urgent pressure to do something you’re not doing or to be someone you’re not being. They are “just trying to help” or “just trying to see if you care”.

It feels awful and there’s just no amount of “communication” that’s going to fix it in the moment. All you can do is try to ESCAPE it.

Yeah, that.

That’s exactly how some women feel when we are “just being the way we are”.

Why do some guys apply a similar kind of pressure to women?

Why do we sometimes express a constant nagging energy of impatience, urgency, neediness, anger, criticism, poutiness, disapproval and/or disappointment?

Sometimes it’s just being loud, aggressive or dominant. Sometimes it just in the way we close the front door!

I can’t speak for you, but I can speak for me.

It ALWAYS came from an underlying, insidious insecurity.

Healing Insecurity

Insecurity feels like a nervous inner vibration of self-doubt, inadequacy and fear of the unknown.

The “cure” to my insecurity – and probably yours – is to directly face those hidden childhood shadows of feeling weak, abandoned, unloved and dependent on external validation.

I’m talking about intentionally exposing them, talking about them, sharing them, laughing about them and acknowledging the guilt of hurting others.

Sounds like fun, right? It actually IS when you’re doing it with other men just like you.

It’s positively liberating to detach from the grip of unresolved, boyhood crap and starting living in the skin of a cool, calm, confident and self-reliant MAN.

This is where you find out you’ve being TRYING TOO HARD to get your needs met.

You’ve been trying to engineer outcomes through your expectations instead of simply creating connection by sharing your secure, healthy masculine value.

When you release your insecure expectations of how others should treat you, you finally RELAX into the security of knowing who you are…and liking that. A lot. You’ll have a different perspective with old thoughts like “she’s happy with everyone but me”. You can have new thoughts. Mindsets that invite the new happy, enriching, connected life you’ve wanted all along.

How To Get A New Perspective

A really simple way to get started immediately is to join Dan Dore and I in the Goodguys2Greatmen Live Coaching Roundtable. Click on that link for information and registration. One member recently sent me this email:

“Without this group and your videos I would probably still be the old insecure “child” around my wife. I am doing better and now can engage her on a level field and not care what she thinks about me, and still be compassionate with her. Thanks for being a life-changer!” (Mike C.)

We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

We’re here to guide you on this mission.

If you want to become a man who knows and trusts himself to create the life and love he wants, apply for a free consultation call right now. We guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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