Hey brother,
There’s this thing I do every now and then that sucks the wind out of my sails quicker than…(insert your own metaphor here).
I have a feeling you might do this sometimes too.
It’s a crippling habit that fills a man with doubt, uncertainty and indecision. It creates a general mindset of inadequacy and sometimes even ENVY.
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What’s the habit?
COMPARING YOURSELF AND YOUR SITUATION TO OTHER PEOPLE!
Sometimes I compare my business to my friends’ and colleagues’ businesses to see where I stand.
Sometimes I compare my lifestyle and where I live to people who seem to be happier…and warmer!
Sometimes I compare my level of productivity to other men who seem to totally have their sh*t together and get TONS more done in a week than I do.
And sometimes I compare my looks, physique and sex life to those of other men who seem to be way ahead of me in those departments.
Have you ever done that? If not…hit delete and go to your next email now.
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If yes, then watch this short video to find out why we do this and what to do instead.
Why do we compare??
We compare ourselves to others because we don’t have or are not yet confident enough in our OWN INTERNAL GAUGE.
You must develop your own unique measure of success and happiness because other people’s measures are all wrong for you.
We can’t look outside of ourselves for reassurance that we’re on the right path. We must define the path that’s right for us and assess our own progress.
But most of us still look outside ourselves.
We look to women to affirm our value.
We watch TV, movies and porn and get a twisted version of manhood.
We envy the jobs, money, women and sex lives of other men.
Why?
Because we don’t yet have a clear answer for some critical questions.
Who am I? What do I stand for?
Where am I going? What do I expect of myself when nobody is watching?
What do I expect FOR myself that I’m willing to create for myself?
My coach asks me all the time…”Do you have a vision of your future so powerful it makes you want to cry when you think about it?” (I always grit my teeth when I’m asked that.)
What to do Instead?
I’ll number these for you so you won’t forget.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. (yes, you can)
2. Start calibrating your OWN gauge of happiness and success. (more below on this)
3. Stop second guessing your own power and brilliance. (yes, I know you do that)
4. Start hanging around BETTER PEOPLE as soon as possible. (you’re the average of the 5 people you hang around most…be careful)
Then lather, rinse and repeat.
I go through these 4 steps over and over again. It’s a process. It’s a mindset.
It’s a lifestyle. You get to choose to live it your way.
This is exactly why I’m committed to helping other men. I do it for ME first – then you.
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