Hey brother,
There’s a “chicken and the egg” situation I want to address right here…right now.
And this is crucial to HOW YOU THINK about getting what you want in life and relationships.
How you think about everything is the only control you have and all you will ever need.
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Why?
Because the moment you change the way you think about the things happening in your life…those very things will start changing in front of your eyes.
I’m in the business of helping men CHANGE THEIR PERSPECTIVE about what it means to be a man. I teach them HOW TO THINK differently.
What causes us to become needy, dependent and afraid in relationships?
What is the true source of confidence, clarity and well-being if it’s not in the warm, accepting arms of a woman?
I ask men to tell me what they MOST WANT in the next 6 months. What’s the most important question they need answered?
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Here is the #1 most popular question I get from men.
“How can I get my wife/girlfriend to like me/love me/pay attention to me/give me affection/desire me/touch me/have sex with me again?”
And then I ask them what they see as their biggest barrier to getting what they want.
Here is #2 most popular question I get from men.
“How can I find the confidence/strength/self-esteem/courage to be the man I know I can be?”
You see the problem already, don’t you? (my readers are incredibly smart, intuitive people…I know this)
Those two questions need to be flip-flopped.
There is no mystery about which comes first – confidence or attractiveness.
We must FOCUS on the real problem and make it our top priority.
Your sense of confidence/strength/self-esteem/courage precedes every positive thing you want to create.
And, obviously, if you have the OPPOSITE of those things…you will create nothing you want.
I talk about this more in this video.
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Self-help is a popular route to building your confidence.
Sometimes it’s quite effective.
However, you can overdose on self-help when it becomes a search for INFORMATION…TIPS…HACKS…OR TRICKS.
There is NO QUICK FIX to learning true confidence. It takes conscious action and application to real-world situations.
Consistency is key to learning a new habit and creating new patterns in your behavior.
When I wrote my book, Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband, I purposely put in all kinds of examples of situations, dialog, conversations and case studies to help you TAKE ACTION.
I know it’s ACTION which will cause the shift you need in your thinking and your confidence. And when this happens, I get an email like this:
“I know this sounds maybe funny to some, but it is just so damn easy living with this sense of calm, knowing that it is just a movie, an exciting, thrilling virtual reality. If you want passion, its yours, if you want love, right there it is, if you want adventure, bang …you can have it. What is also really exciting is the realization that if you want pain, hate, guilt, sadness, loneliness, those too are simply choices that you can make to acquire those things.” (Matt – 2/2024)
Self help CAN BE quite effective when you know how to turn the information into action.
Get the book by going HERE. It’s only $7.99.
But, if you can’t get it due to circumstances out of your control, reply to this email now and I’ll send you a free PDF version of it. It’s not about the money for me…I just want you to get a leg up and start taking action.
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
- We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
- We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
