More Intimacy A Man’s Sexual Epiphany
A friend excitedly told me today that he had an epiphany over the weekend…but he thought that was probably just her stage name. Sorry. That one has always cracked me up!
What’s an epiphany anyway? It’s a sudden realization. It’s a spontaneous understanding. It’s a BFO – A Blinding Flash of the Obvious!
So when a man has a sexual epiphany, he has finally pieced together the puzzle that reveals the truth about his path to passion – to more intimacy. The truth about his path to passion?? I know…sounds a little much but bear with me for a minute
Since before we were born, we men have been aware of our emerging sexuality. Sonograms have proven that we become all too “in touch” with our pleasure points right from the start.
If you are like most men, and like me, a large part of your life has been spent thinking, wondering, and worrying about how those pleasure points will be satisfied. You likely imagined that the solution was ultimately in the control of others – specifically, women.
The SEXUAL EPIPHANY I am talking about is the point in a man’s life when thinking, wondering, and worrying changes into LEADING, ROMANCING, AND ENJOYING! This epiphany does not just happen with age. It must be earned. It is SIMPLE – but not EASY. If it was easy, every guy would be doing it and would be happy with his sex life.
Your transition from horny to happy is based in your transition from expecting things from your WIFE to expecting things from YOURSELF. This personal transformation is part of the journey I call the Masculine Confidence Intensive Program which is full of surprises.
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This change also brings the brand new benefit of having more self-confidence, more self-respect, and more control over your emotions.
When you discover these feelings and learn how to consistently expect them of yourself something else changes. I hear this from frustrated wives ALL THE TIME.
Your SEX APPEAL shoots through the roof! You have achieved the status of “sexy man”. Your wife sees you in a new attractive light which is the ONLY light that allows her to see you this way. In fact, many other women notice as well – wherever you are. You have “morphed” into that man that other guys envy and women adore. And until now, you had no idea that it had everything to do with how you think about yourself.
What happened to this man? He is no longer an unattractive, adolescent minded guy who’s emotional and physical satisfaction are controlled by others and what he can get from them. What happened was his epiphany!
He is a man who now knows that his old sexual neediness came from a place of weakness. His new strength is an aura of masculine confidence which allows him to unapologetically admit that he WANTS passion – but clearly does not NEED it. Now THIS is attractive!
He accepts his role as leader of the “romance department” and the “good feelings department”. He is patient, loving, and giving as he shapes the new environment that HE wants to live in. These are the values he now holds as important and she loves it!
His epiphany is crystal clear. His first priority is to create and maintain an emotionally safe, trusting, and loving environment for himself and his wife. His second priority is to invite her to join him in building the powerful emotional and physical connection they have both always wanted. All he needed was to finally get the order straight!
That’s right. She wants exactly what he wants. She just needs him to understand how she arrives there.
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Q: What is a “sexual epiphany” for a man and why does it matter?
A: A sexual epiphany is that Blinding Flash of the Obvious where a man realizes intimacy isn’t about getting something from his wife — it’s about how he thinks about himself. It’s the moment he shifts from expecting from her to expecting from himself, and his whole sex life begins to change.
Q: Why does my sex life improve when I stop being needy and start leading?
A: Because neediness is unattractive. When you move from worrying and waiting to leading, romancing, and enjoying, you radiate masculine confidence. That shift — from horny to happy — is what skyrockets your sex appeal and invites your wife back into emotional connection.
Q: How does masculine confidence make a man more sexually attractive?
A: When a man develops self-respect, emotional control, and internal strength, he naturally becomes the “sexy man” everyone notices. Women respond to the energy of a man who WANTS passion but doesn’t NEED it. That aura of relaxed confidence is the real driver of desire and intimacy.
Q: What does it mean to lead the “romance department” in a marriage?
A: It means you stop waiting for permission and start shaping the emotional environment. You become the man who is patient, loving, giving, and intentional — the man who creates trust, safety, and good feelings first. That environment is what allows her to open her heart and her body again.
Q: How do I stop expecting intimacy from my wife and start expecting more from myself?
A: You begin by aligning your actions with your values. Instead of focusing on what she’s not giving you, you invest in emotional safety, clear communication, kindness, self-mastery, and consistent leadership. When you change how you show up, intimacy becomes a by-product, not a negotiation.
Q: What happens to a man after he has this sexual epiphany?
A: He transforms. He stops acting like an adolescent who’s dependent on others for emotional and physical satisfaction. He becomes a man with clarity, strength, and grounded desire. His wife sees him in a new light — the only light that awakens her passion — because he finally understands how she arrives at intimacy.
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