How to Re-attract Your Wife (the Truth Behind the Answers You’re Looking for)
I won’t beat around the bush. I haven’t been completely honest with you.
I’ll get right to it. Here are some of the little white lies I’ve been telling you:
I can tell you how to save your marriage
I can teach you how to get more sex – as much as you want
I can help you make your wife happy
I can show you how to make your woman want you again
Those words are exactly what I was Googling years ago when I was in your shoes.
It’s called “Search Engine Optimization”. It’s exactly how my early coaches and mentors got me to click on their information. They baited me with key words and teaser tidbits that tickled my pain points and promised me what I thought I wanted. I remember one of the phrases I clicked on what “Nymphomanic Wife”.
Yeah. It worked.
I was Googling for what I thought I wanted and – along the way – I discovered what I really needed.
It was that frantic, frustrated Googling that started my journey and likely how you wound up here too.
The truth is that while you may think you want to save your marriage, get more sex or make your wife happy…that’s NOT what you need.
A happy, healthy, intimate and sexual relationship isn’t a requirement to start with…it’s a RESULT.
It’s a result of BEING a healthy, happy and passionate man.
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I go into greater detail in this video about what this change in thinking is all about.
The reason I pick those key words and phrases is because they are the thoughts already in your head. They are the words that get your attention and they are the words that worked on me.
The only reality I knew was that my sense of well-being, security and happiness was outside of me – in someone else’s hands. I believed my only option was to learn how to control or manipulate those outside circumstances.
It turns out that was total BS and a total waste of time. I would never get what I wanted by trying to change my outside circumstances.
What I want you to know is that by changing your inside circumstances your perception of your outside circumstances changes almost immediately. Your reality then changes too.
Yes, the objective facts haven’t changed, but your relationship to those facts, your thoughts and the meaning you assign to those thoughts can all change your experience of what’s happening.
This is the birthplace of your renewed sense of calmness, confidence and peace of mind. (aka. Mojo)
What are Inside Circumstances?
These are your thoughts. It’s your understanding of how life and relationships really work. It’s your deeper view into the cause of shame in women and men. And it’s your realization that – at your core – you’re actually okay.
Your inside circumstances are the only true source of your calm, clear, confident sense of well-being. And that’s a good thing because that’s all you can actually influence.
That’s what I needed to learn…even though it’s NOT what I was Googling for.
So, I apologize for the little while lies, but it’s the only way most men will start their journey – looking for something they don’t really need. No matter how much we WANT something, it will never satisfy us if it’s not what we need.
One of the most powerful insights I’ve ever had is:
You can never get enough of what you don’t really need.
Once a man begins to understand this at a deep level, the lights come on…one by one. And by changing his perceptions he changes his emotions…which change his responses…which create outcomes he never imagined possible.
Dan and I had to go through this learning and it’s what we do with men every day. It’s what we love to help you understand. That you have ultimate control over your future – but you’re slightly off track in the way you’re steering your ship.
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Q: Why can’t I “save my marriage” no matter how hard I try?
A: Because saving your marriage isn’t the real starting point — becoming a calm, confident, grounded man is. A healthy marriage is a result, not a technique. When you change your inside circumstances — your thinking, meaning-making, and emotional posture — your whole relationship shifts in ways you can’t force externally.
Q: How do I get more sex or desire back in my relationship?
A: Not by chasing it. Not by trying to “make her want you.” Desire grows when you return to your natural masculine state — calm, confident, emotionally solid, and not dependent on her approval. Sex becomes easy again when you feel good about who you are, not when you try to earn it.
Q: Why can’t I make my wife happy no matter what I do?
A: Because you’re trying to control something that isn’t yours. Her happiness is an inside job — just like yours. Your job is to lead your emotional world, not manage hers. When you stop trying to manufacture her happiness and focus on your masculine confidence, the whole dynamic shifts.
Q: What does it mean to change my “inside circumstances”?
A: It means transforming the way you think, interpret, and assign meaning to your relationship. Inside circumstances are your thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, fears, and stories. When you shift those, the outside world looks different — even if nothing external has changed yet. That’s where confidence, clarity, and peace of mind live.
Q: Why do I feel like my well-being depends on my wife’s actions or mood?
A: Because you’ve unknowingly handed her the controls. Most men do this without realizing it. When you believe your happiness is outside you, you start Googling for tips, hacks, and “fixes.” The truth is your well-being comes from inside — from reclaiming your sense of worth and emotional responsibility.
Q: What’s the fastest way to rebuild confidence, calmness, and clarity?
A: By changing the way you think — and by doing it with other men walking the same road. When you shift your perceptions, your emotions shift, your responses shift, and your outcomes change. A brotherhood accelerates that process and helps you find the masculine confidence you’ve been chasing.
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