Why She No Longer Undresses When You’re In The Room
Coaches Garrett Prettyman and Mark Drezga are gearing up for another run of their popular small group course: The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence
If you’re a man who wants a solution to the problem of distance and disconnection with your wife, this course is for you. The success stories coming from guys who have taken this course are piling up.
Below, Garrett discusses one of the most important skills you can learn: How to reduce pressure and INCREASE connection.
Get on the waiting list now so you don’t miss the launch of the next course.
Here’s Garrett.
Exposing The Root Issue Of Negative Pressure
Long before your wife or girlfriend will let you back into her panties, you need to get into her heart and create emotional intimacy.
A core issue that prevents emotional intimacy between most men and women is our vibe of negative pressure.
We can be a great provider and never physically harm our wife but if our vibe feels like negative pressure to her, it activates her fight or flight response.
Negative pressure can stem from behaviors like…
- A lack of respect for our wife
- Expecting her to think/act like ourselves
- A general disdain for women
- Criticizing her feelings or moods
- Looking to her for validation
- Expecting her to match our level of sacrifice for the family
- Needing to know what, why, where, and who she has been interacting with
Many hurt men have pointed their finger at women, armed with statistics to “prove” she is the problem.
If we victimize ourselves by blaming women, we can kiss intimacy with women goodbye.
Valuing that our wife is a beautiful feminine person is the path forward to rebuilding her comfort to undress and be physically intimate with us again.
Her struggles and pain are unique to her and might not make sense to us but are the exact areas of the relationship where she needs our empathy and support.
Believing “she’s the problem”, “she needs to get it together”, or “she’s just a b*tch” won’t get you the love and respect you deserve.
Adding negative pressure to a negative situation always creates a negative experience
How Negative Pressure Creeps Into Marriage
You probably exuded positive pressure or sexy, “emotional tension” to effortlessly create emotional intimacy with her when you first met.
But now you have a track record with her…Possibly a negative track record.
Your negative track record is why she no longer changes when you’re in the room let alone joins you in the shower or sleeps pressed to your side.
Here’s how we built the negative track record that makes her feel uncomfortable around us…
- When we got defensive, we kept the conversation in reaction mode instead of leading emotional safety
- When we got critical, she felt like she couldn’t trust us with her feelings, making her feel abandoned
- When we initiated sex while she wasn’t in the mood, we communicated that we were not tuned into her feelings or her body
- When we fed thoughts of dissatisfaction towards her in our mind, we began behaving around her as if we didn’t value her.
Multiply these issues over many years and it will feel like there’s a wall between her heart and ours.
The wall around her heart melts when she feels a strong emotional connection with us.
How To Become The Positive Man She Wants To Undress Around Again
Only one kind of man can turn the ship around when his track record of negative pressure has driven a wedge in the relationship.
It’s the man who…
- Stops taking things personally
- Stops focusing on what’s out of his control
- Starts living life to his terms (with swagger and a grin)
- Starts trusting who he knows he is instead of other’s opinions
When my clients make dramatic changes in their relationship, it’s because they made dramatic changes in themselves by resolving their insecurities, triggers, and immature behaviors.
We have a course that will help you become a man who isn’t rattled by your wife’s accusations or moods but instead brings fun, edgy, POSITIVE emotional connection everywhere you go.
You can be a man who builds a new track record with your wife if you take these 3 steps:
Step 1: Mark your calendar! On Saturday, October 5th, doors will open to register for “The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course“. Registration will only be open for 24 hours or until 8 spots are filled, whichever comes first.
Step 2: Click HERE to get on our waiting list to gain registration priority (and a 10% early-bird discount),
Step 3: Once on the waiting list, keep an eye out for the emails we’ll send to help prepare you for the 1st session.
Joining the waiting list is free!
As a bonus, we are including a special segment on how to confidently build a deep and meaningful emotional connection with your wife!
This segment is normally part of another program, and we don’t plan to include it for free with future Confidence Course groups.
The segment includes:
- Building awareness of how YOU lead the energy in her body
- How to respond in a way that opens her heart
- How to strengthen her emotional bond with you
- How to open her heart in a conversation without using words (very easy to learn)
Imagine being a man who can effortlessly lead your relationship away from arguments and frustration back to love, affection, respect, and positive experiences.
Can you see yourself taking charge of your relationship, and clearing the blocks preventing the emotional connection your wife needs to feel in love with you?
You want to be this guy…She needs you to be this guy.
The first session of the course will be on Saturday, October 12th, at 5:00 PM Pacific.
Course sessions will run every-other week for two months and the cost is only $424 per month.
Investing in your confidence to create a steamy love-filled marriage and heart-to-heart emotional connection with your wife will be worth every penny.
Our you could save a few bucks, and not gain this kind of confidence… It’s your call!
This new confident version of yourself is waiting for you on the other side.
We’ll see you there, live and in person!
Q: Why does my wife feel so distant even though I’m trying to reconnect?
A: Because your vibe carries negative pressure—she feels your anxiety and need for validation instead of your calm, grounded confidence.
Q: What exactly is “negative pressure” in a marriage?
A: It’s the emotional tension created when you try to control, fix, or chase love instead of leading it from a secure, confident state.
Q: How can I reduce pressure and rebuild emotional connection with my wife?
A: Stop trying to manage her reactions and focus on your own—your calm presence and self-assured energy melt resistance faster than words ever can.
Q: Why did she stop feeling attracted to me after years together?
A: Because over time, criticism, defensiveness, and emotional neediness replaced the playful, confident man she once trusted to lead connection.
Q: How does The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence help men like me?
A: It trains you to dissolve insecurity, rebuild positive emotional tension, and lead your marriage from relaxed, magnetic strength instead of fear.
Q: What kind of man does my wife actually want to undress around again?
A: The one who doesn’t need her approval—who lives on his terms, stays unshaken by moods, and brings light, fun, masculine energy back into the room.
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