My Wife Moved Out How Can I be Happy Again?

Did your your happiness and confidence disappear when your wife moved out? I’m going to tell you a story about me, a story about a holocaust survivor, and the CHOICE each of us made to create our own happiness.

Right now, A 125,000 acre wildfire is about 3 miles from burning down my house, barn and the new, beloved “She Shed/He Shed”.

Yeah, really.

I’m hanging out 40 miles away in the basement of a friend with my girlfriend in tow along with 2 dogs, 3 cats and 2 horses. I’m glad I have good friends I can lean on for help.

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It’s also good to have a grocery store 8 minutes away and about 25 pubs just 10 minutes away for the first time in my life. And I can still have my coaching sessions and get other projects done.

If the house burns down, I’ve got insurance. It’ll be a pain but it won’t be the end of the world.

You might say, “Damn, you’re handling this well!” And you would be right.

And so would you. Am I right?

I bet you typically respond to hardship, difficulty, challenges and unfortunate situations like a WARRIOR. You face it head-on – make plans – make stuff happen and plow through. Nothing scares you that much.

Even when things are 100% out of your control, you learn quickly you can RESPOND with clear, decisive action and take the lead. And when you do that you feel better, calmer and more in control of the stuff you can control.

My Happiness Comes From Focusing On What I Can Control

So if us dudes are that good with most of the inconveniences of life, why do we completely lose it when facing rejection or the possibility of divorce?

It’s the ONE FRONTIER where a man can feel not only powerless…but entirely incapable of thinking clearly. The threat of failure, abandonment and upheaval of his “master plan” creates paralysis.

He can’t respond to anything. Everything feels like an emotional reaction…24/7.

And that’s when we normally first hear from him.

Watch this short video about what happens next.

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How to Respond to the Threat of Divorce

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Viktor Frankl wrote about his experience in a Nazi concentration camp.

He was stripped of everything a man could possibly be stripped of.

Even then he came to the most liberating realization that would change the rest of his life and his profession.

It was the realization – and responsibility – that our secret power is to “choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Victor created his happiness by choosing his attitude.

When Your Wife Moved Out, The Attitude You Chose Moved In

When it comes to the discomfort of being rejected and facing divorce, you have the same secret power as Victor Frankl.

Your inherent sense of security, confidence, happiness and inner strength is a state of mind and being that is ever-present. Even when you forget that you must realize it is a CHOICE.

Security, confidence, happiness and inner strength were never meant to come from your wife or your marriage. It’s already within you.

We teach men how to FIND THEIR INHERENT VALUE AND CONFIDENCE even in the discomfort of a crumbling relationship.

We help them realize that this choice is a prerequisite to a happy life as a married man or a single man.

And we teach them that the only road to a second chance in their marriage is along the path of being a secure, confident, happy, strong man.

This is the road we must find no matter what.

You have one choice even if she moved out already… Focus on what you can’t control and feel miserable or focus on what you can control and create your happiness.

If you’re ready for a deep, caring conversation about getting back on the right path, submit our contact form. Fill it out completely and get as detailed and vulnerable as you dare!

Either I or one of my certified coaches will reply quickly to set up a free, no-strings conversation to help you slow down and refocus on what is really important.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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